This topic is about feeling attractive and maintaining sexual confidence for women who have ostomies. A woman with an ostomy shares her feelings of embarrassment and questions whether she can still be seen as attractive, even when there is strong mental and emotional chemistry with a partner. Here are some pieces of advice and insights shared on this topic:

1. From a general male perspective, physical attraction often starts with the face, and is enhanced by personality traits like humor, good conversation, honesty, and posture. An ostomy pouch is considered just a "slight detour" and not a deal-breaker if the woman is confident and engages all five senses.

2. Confidence and determination are key. The saying "Where there’s a will, there’s a way" highlights that these qualities are more important than any appliance.

3. For online dating, it's helpful to post clear photos. A bright head-shot and a relaxed full-body picture taken from about 10 feet away can help present yourself confidently.

4. Real-world experiences show that dating sites can be effective. Many people in mid-life have their own health issues and are open to accepting a colostomy. One person shared that they had no trouble finding accepting partners and now live with someone they met this way.

5. Simply put, women with ostomies can still be attractive when there is genuine chemistry.