This topic is about a new mother who is facing a difficult situation regarding her colostomy. After an emergency surgery due to an IUD perforating her bowel, she was told by her surgeon that losing a significant amount of weight could make her eligible for a colostomy reversal. She successfully lost the weight, but during a recent appointment, the surgeon’s understudy advised against the reversal, citing serious risks due to internal damage. This news left her feeling devastated and isolated, unsure of what steps to take next.

Here are some pieces of advice and insights that might help:

1. Try to speak directly with your primary surgeon before making any decisions. The opinion of an understudy might not fully align with your surgeon’s perspective.

2. While waiting for further consultation, consider learning more about living well with an ostomy. Building confidence and practical skills can help reduce anxiety for both you and your baby.

3. Remember that many people have successful colostomy reversals. Hearing about others' experiences can be reassuring, but keep in mind that outcomes vary, and some reversals may not succeed. Always rely on medical advice tailored to your specific situation.

4. Reach out to a stoma nurse as soon as possible. They can evaluate whether a reversal is suitable for you, provide practical tips, arrange home visits, and offer emotional support.

5. If resources for stoma nurses are limited, consider contacting Macmillan nurses for additional counseling and practical assistance.

6. Understand that feeling depressed after stoma surgery is common. Involve your partner in shared activities and seek professional mental health support if needed.

7. Online communities, such as Inspire.com and ostomy forums, can be valuable for sharing experiences, gaining practical advice, and receiving emotional encouragement.