This topic is about the challenges faced by someone who has undergone multiple surgeries related to a colostomy and hernia repairs. The person is dealing with recurring hernias, mesh failures, and resulting nerve damage, which have led to chronic pain and frustration. Here are some insights and advice shared by others who have experienced similar issues:

1. Parastomal and incisional hernias are quite common after ostomy surgery, and unfortunately, they often come back even after being repaired.

2. Activities like lifting heavy objects, such as boxes of beer or doing garden work, can trigger new or recurring hernias. It's advisable to avoid these activities or seek help when needed.

3. Some people have had positive experiences with mesh repairs:
- One person had a large incisional hernia repaired with mesh, along with a tummy tuck and scar revision. This repair has held up for several years, with only a small "pot belly" developing.
- Another person needed a very large second mesh but has been able to function well with it in place.

4. If you're looking for a specialist, one recommendation is Dr. John Hagen from the Minimally Invasive Surgery Group in Toronto, Canada. After three laparoscopic attempts, the repair has remained hernia-free for over four years.

5. It's important to manage expectations, as even skilled surgeons acknowledge that parastomal hernias often return, and multiple repair attempts might be necessary.

6. Emotional support is crucial. Many people have gone through numerous abdominal surgeries and understand the pain, disability, and employment concerns that come with it. They empathize with the challenges you're facing.