This topic is about someone who is having a tough time adjusting to life with a new colostomy. They are using alcohol to cope with their feelings, finding it hard to look at the pouch, and describing it as unpleasant and difficult to manage. Here are some pieces of advice and insights shared by others:

1. Alcohol warnings and alternatives:
- Many people advise that alcohol can make gut issues and mood problems worse. They suggest finding other ways to escape, like exercising or engaging in activities that give you a thrill.

2. Perspective from those with more experience:
- Some see the pouch as a symbol of survival, which can help in viewing the situation more positively.
- Just like learning to use the bathroom as a child, taking care of an ostomy is a skill that becomes easier with practice.

3. Coping tips for the time before a planned reversal:
- Remember that the pouch is temporary and take things one day at a time. Sharing your experience can also help others who are nervous about surgery.
- Try not to let the pouch define your identity.

4. Managing vomiting or coughing to reduce hernia risk:
- When you need to cough or vomit, hold a firm pillow against your abdomen. This can support the stoma area and reduce strain.

5. General encouragement:
- Get ready both physically and mentally for the upcoming reversal. Stay connected with supportive communities, and if controlling alcohol becomes too challenging, consider seeking professional help.