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Aug 06, 2017

Surgery Dilemma: Managing University and Health Challenges

This topic is about someone who is trying to balance the timing of their J-pouch surgery with their university commitments while dealing with a problematic mucous fistula. After an emergency colectomy, they found themselves with unexpected complications and are now facing a tough decision about when to proceed with further surgery. Here are some key points and advice related to their situation:

- After the emergency colectomy, a "closed mucous fistula" was created without prior warning. It was supposed to open as small holes but instead burst open, resulting in a long, weeping wound.
- They now have to manage two appliances:
1. A standard ileostomy bag.
2. A small disc-shaped bag with absorbent pads over the fistula wound, which needs changing at least twice a day due to heavy blood and mucus output.
- The J-pouch completion surgery is scheduled for November 23, but there is an option to move it forward to August 15 or 22.
- The university term has already started, and the deadline to drop subjects is August 31. Moving the surgery forward would mean withdrawing from some courses and taking them externally or in the summer to stay on track.
- There are concerns about managing two bags, the risk of leakage, and the complex care routine while attending classes. There is also a fear of social isolation and mental health decline if recovering at home for months after early surgery, especially since they haven't made friends at university yet.
- They are seeking guidance on whether to:
1. Opt for earlier surgery, which might provide physical relief but could lead to mental challenges and academic delays.
2. Stay in university now, maintaining routine and social opportunities but dealing with demanding wound care and the risk of leakage.

Advice and insights from others include:

- Prioritize health first. If the surgeon believes earlier surgery is the safest and quickest path to recovery, consider postponing or lightening the university load. Academic opportunities will still be available later.
- Consider taking online or external courses during recovery to avoid the stress of being on campus while still making progress toward the degree. Choosing a sensible healing timeline does not mean failure.
- Personal experiences suggest that managing intensive studies alongside major bowel surgery and unpredictable complications can be overwhelming. Removing academic pressure can ease physical recovery.
- From a life-trajectory perspective, delaying education for medical reasons does not close future opportunities. Catching up or graduating a bit later is achievable through summer school and extra effort once health stabilizes.
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