This topic is about the challenges faced by someone with an ostomy who is trying to lose weight. They find that the typical advice to eat high-fiber foods like vegetables and fruits increases their ostomy output, which is frustrating. They are looking for advice from others who might have experienced similar issues.

Here are some helpful insights and advice shared by others:

1. Focus on portion control instead of restricting certain foods. Enjoy the foods you like but try eating slightly less at each meal. Gradually reducing portions can lead to weight loss without having to give up your favorite foods.

2. Be prepared for higher output when consuming raw vegetables and many fruits. The undigested fiber in these foods can pull extra water into your stool, increasing output.

3. If high-fiber foods make you anxious about leaks, experiment to find what works for you. Some people avoid or limit certain fruits like apples and instead rely on foods they find safer, such as chocolate or mashed potatoes, even if these aren't typically part of a "healthy diet."

4. Some structured diet plans that others have found workable include:
- The 17 Day Diet, which involves cycles of 17 days and includes meals like cabbage and ground turkey soup, and Greek yogurt with fruit.
- The commercial program Jenny Craig, humorously noted as less effective than weight loss during a Crohn’s flare.
- Dr. Steven Gundry’s book "Plant Paradox" and ketogenic eating, which some acquaintances reported led to rapid weekly weight loss.

5. Practical tips to help reduce intake and manage hunger include:
- Drinking an 8-ounce glass of water before meals or snacks to help you feel fuller.
- Keeping total daily carbohydrates around 120-130 grams and measuring portions, such as 4 ounces of meat, 2 ounces of dry pasta, or one slice of bread.

6. Exercise can help balance calories, but many find that the total quantity of food eaten is the most crucial factor.

7. Acknowledge the emotional aspect of dieting. Stress can lead to overeating, so finding a sustainable plan that works for you is important.