What disguise did you use the first time, I'm not being nosy we are all in the same boat now.
Past Member
Jul 19, 2023 12:36 pm
pueanthony4
Nov 11, 2023 6:45 pm
If you wear a belt with your urostomy or colostomy, tuck the bag underneath the belt to your left or right, depending on what side your bag is on. Make sure you use the bathroom before any action takes place.
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Posted by: iMacG5
About seven years ago, just about every aspect of my life was ostomy related. From the moment I was told an ostomy might be needed until some months down the road I existed as a person afflicted with a colostomy. I feared someone other than my immediate family might find out I had a bag. Ugh! What could be worse? Suppose it filled real fast when I was out with no place to hide and take care of myself. God forbid should it leak in church! Suppose I roll over on it in bed. I was a lesser creature, destined to a life of emotional anguish and physical routines different from most of the rest of the world. I felt like a freak. Then I found folks like you guys here, read your stuff, really “listened” to what you had to say and I began looking at things differently. We know perception is everything and I began to understand how good things were relative to what they could’ve been. So many folks had it so much worse than I did. That didn’t make my discomfort go away but it exposed how fortunate I was to be dealing with my stuff and not their’s. I felt a little guilt, maybe selfishness but quickly forgave myself by understanding I just wasn’t smart enough to fix my feelings. Then, I wonder what smarts have to do with feelings. My perception was warped so my perspective toward my existence was warped.
I learned over the last few years with the help of lots of folks right here at MAO that I could be better at living just by accepting some facts. It is what it is and so what? It’s not the worst thing to happen to a person.
I think everything is, in some way, related to everything else. I just put the ostomy thing in the back seat and drive forward.
Respectfully,
Mike
Lins0808
Dec 11, 2023 10:28 pm
I'm the same. I've had an ileostomy for 43 years (I'm 54) and have never used anything extra. It's never been an issue for me or my past partners. My husband says it's a non-issue and I have no reason to believe otherwise.
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toddB
Jan 25, 2024 8:07 pm
These are Coloplast Sensura Mio products. They have two different Velcro attachment locations: extended or folded up.
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warrior
Jan 25, 2024 8:49 pm
Hey Todd, tell me about the last one on the right that's for the Mio flip because I was told they don't make those for the flip.
You got a part number there? Thanks.
warrior
Jan 25, 2024 9:24 pm
Thank you, Todd. I need to check something out because what I have here is an ostomy pouch, and the part number on that was 2802. I'm looking at the thing right now, and it looks like a really tiny, tiny small pancake, but yours really is a pouch, I believe. It's not a stoma cap, correct?
Because that's what I thought it was looking at it. I wanted a stoma cap.
warrior
Jan 26, 2024 5:23 pm
Ok. Thanks, Todd.
The funny thing about those stoma caps is that try as I might to imagine emptying one if that thing gets full during the intimate moment, you can't.
You obviously have to excuse yourself for a few more than minutes because you got to clean that up and with no drain, so the whole thing comes off and you got to pop on another one.
Talk about a killjoy moment 😔
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toddB
Jan 27, 2024 11:23 am
I can definitely see and appreciate what you are saying. The one on the left that folds up does have expansion volume (by unfolding it) and a drain, if needed.
Xlshrimp
Apr 21, 2024 9:50 pm
I found a black neoprene with Velcro belt about 3” wide helps me, or I'll just wear sports underwear and pull out through the leg and carry on. 🦌 Tried the small size cap/bag but they fill up so fast I didn't like it. Get lucky.
Mr.bonson
Jun 23, 2024 8:38 pm
I haven't read all your replies, but this is the bang bag right here. Just so you know, if you don't use Hollister, try a sample of it. I used one for an 803 flange that goes up to two inches that I cut out. I can wear it all day easily with no issues. Some days I need one with a shoulder strap, some days not. If I'm on the wrong kind of bag or wrong subject, my apologies. The bag I normally wear is a 18183, so it's one number up, 18283, for the little one. If you wear a different size, I don't know what they do. Good luck, have fun.
Past Member
May 31, 2025 7:38 pm
I can imagine why it would be a challenge. Though, if I were in your shoes, I would use nothing at all. The important thing to remember is the enjoyment of it. It was never about the bag to begin with. ✨
lisawilkinson96
Jun 22, 2025 6:05 am
There are ostomy wraps with pockets inside from ostomysecrets.com; they go around your body. They are great for the beach as well. They gave me my confidence back.
dougdory
Jun 23, 2025 1:15 am
You can roll it up and tape it, or just tape it to the left side; no problem.
Sue Feldman
Sep 28, 2025 2:35 pm
You can use a lightweight scarf and wrap it around your waist and tie it in the back, and your bag won't move or be in the way. I use a scarf and a plastic stoma cover when showering, and it really helps to keep the water away from your bag. So what I do is put the shower stoma plastic holder on first, secure that, and then use a scarf to cover the appliance and bag and tie it tight in the back. So to me, it sounds like a good suggestion to just use a scarf when you are intimate.