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Sat Aug 14, 2021 4:35 pm

Thank you all ladies and gents for reading my Rant , for your comments ,  confirming my faith in humanity . I fitmily believe that the vast majority of people , not just the US but worldwide are decent human beings who are always willing to make a little sacrifice in an effort to help and protect others .. I many months at various times in a no-entry isolation unit , to protect my wrecked immune system and prevent it overacting to a minor bug . I saw only people in "Space Suits ,  the refuse from my room was iremoved n big red bags  labels with the " hazardous waste" symbol on the bag .  I couldn't talk or interact with people or family . The only thing that saved my sanity was the pain shots !!  When you get a shot of Demerol etc you can make yourself the interested observer , not a patient  and feel a but less terror at your predicament .  Those masks , gloves and protective clothing  saved my life . Most of the Nurses in that unit had to dress for " Battle" like this every day . I know it's their job and it comes with the territory but the dedication and sheer strength of the women and men who get up every morning and voluntarily enter that realm of head to toe  PPE  are the genuine heroes . With Covid  this PPE  world  extends for months and now years  , some sleeping in motorhomes in their driveway  in case thry migh spread infection to their own family .     For any rational person wearing a mask and the other precautions would be a very small price to pay to avoid the life threatening scenario above . .My isolation was related to wound infection  .. in the past few years many people have lived by the philosophy of  You-know-who.., as in " ...if I don't like it I'm not going to do it "  and the polar opposite of that stTement . GW B  expressed it simply  in a way that any spoiled child at the dinner table would understand .  "  I don't like Broccoli and I'm the President and I won't eat Broccoli "  and this extends to situations where some inconvenience to us personally would greatly help someone else . Selfishness is spread like a contageon among like minded people , each new person who screams ... " NO  !!"  Reinforces that selfish attitude to the point where  the good of the community is no longer relevant to some people  and What's in it for me ???  Becomes the Mantra . A certain person who used to have power reportedly asked a famous and apparently dedicated military  4 Star General  ,  " I don't get it ,  they all died , what's in it for them ?? "  This statement was made while standing over the grave of the Son of that 4 Star General  while visiting Arlington cemetary . This statement epitomizes the attitude of so many people  , what's in it for me . The idea that people have to actually be bribed with some type of prize  to cajole them into taking a life saving shot of medicine which will probably save  their lives is just mind boggling to me ..." what's in it for me ?? " , a free pizza , a lottery ticket etc etc .  A childlike selfishness is on display every day in every media and Social media  forum . . If the floodwaters are rising rapidly around your community  do we go inside and lock our doors because the flood is only consuming the houses on the riverbank  and your feet are still dry or do we have the insight to realize that when the river is done with our neighbors it is co.ing for You nd Your loved ones and their homes .. Is it a " Socialist Plot "  when someone suggests maybe sandbagging the River Bank  and save the whole community .  Sometimes collective action  and the Social Contract  is the only way to survive and get back to a normal life . 

    Yes i deed , people are at their wits end , the end of their rope  etc etc . Kids at home all year driving parents mad , no vacation to break the monotony , fires in the West , floods elsewhere . It is a trying time but the only way to get through times like these is to ignore the  people who only want to pour gasoline on the fire and form the good old           " bucket parade"  and put the fire out .  The selfish " what's in it for me brigade "  is going to burn everyone's house down .

   Now , back to fertilizing the Tomatoes and Strawberries , string beans and sugar snap ....Yummmmm .

Later Baggers . Much love and hugs to all the Osto Crew out there , even the ones who disagree .

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Sun Aug 15, 2021 2:10 am

Hello Magoo.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on such important issues. I found it interesting that you juxtaposed the selflessness of the medical staff with the selfishness of 'certain others'.
For the past few months I have been trying to focus my (rhyming) attention onto 'kindness’, rather than my usual subject matter of unkindness and bullying. I must say that quite often it is difficult to discuss kindness without juxtaposing it to its ugly counterpart.
Usually I try to reason these contradictions out via verse, so I will share one such attempt with you here:


YIN AND YANG OF KINDNESS.

Kindness is a complex concept,
yet, so often, is a percept
that makes it seem to stand apart,
devoid of any counterpart.

Through yin and yang, it can be shown,
that kindness does not stand alone,
so, maybe it’s most apposite
juxtaposed with its opposite.

To give to kindness its true voice,
we should view it as a choice,
between what may seem right or wrong,
in terms of what’s done by the strong.

An act of kindness or of care
may, on the face of it, seem fair,
and this will seem desirable,
especially with the vulnerable.

But what is kindness all about?
And why should kindnesses stand out?
The answers to these questions hide
in what is on the other side.

For unkindness, has for too long,
been the thing we think is wrong,
and hence, when people do what’s right,
it shines an even brighter light.

Thus, I encourage folks to see
these acts as a complexity,
and understand what is at stake.
in choices that humans may make.

Most human beings think things through,
and have a choice in what they do.
So, those who chose the kindness path,
bequeath a better aftermath.

                                           Be Withers 2021


Also, in the spirit of giving credit where it’s due, I’ll share another rhyme with you.
This one emanated from a previous post where, ‘Mr Magoo’ showed us he cared.
Best wishes
Bill

 

MR. MAGOO .

It’s true, I knew Mr. Magoo,
who seemed to know just what to do
at times when things weren’t going right
and scope for hope was out of sight.

Mr. Magoo was one of few,
who liked to think the bad things through,
and come up with solutions where
he showed us all how we can care.

From Mr. Magoo’s point of view,
he thought that life had some value,
and therefore, should be worth the price
of people trying to be nice.

As always, he would bear in mind,
that when someone tries to be kind,
it has a positive effect
upon themselves in that respect.

Thus, to make our lives worthwhile,
he’d advocate that we should smile,
and treat each person as a friend,
which may reward us in the end.

Mr. Magoo once said to me,
that being kind can set us free
from most of our troubles and strife
that make us miserable in life.

I think it’s worth bearing in mind,
it costs us nothing to be kind,
so, practice being kind and you
might imitate Mr. Magoo.

At times, when our lives are askew,
think what Mr. Magoo might do,
be gentle, kind and raise a smile,
simply to make our lives worthwhile.

                                           Be Withers 2021

 

 

Sun Aug 15, 2021 3:11 am

Bill my Friend ☘ you are a real treasure and a true Gentleman .  I am no saint and I've had my share of acting in a selfish way  but at least I analyzed my behaviour and  ( from the Gent in the bathroom  in 'The Shining ' )  sat myself down and gave myself a good talking to ..  I have seem a few  mean, nasty Nurses , some Docs who should have been ...maybe plumbers  lol ...but overall most of the Medicos  were kind, gentle people who could disarm most unkind patiemts with a smile and a kind word , and their main attribute would be unwavering  selflessness  . I saw a little video clip on Reddit this AM . A "man"  who had been asked to wear a mask in the hospital  went  into a rage ..a video posted by himself I brlieve , showed him outside the hospital at the entry sign  pissing on the hospital sign then turning to give the Finger to the hospital and staff . Pretty mild when you see that store clerks have been shot dead for  making the same request .  Civility seems to be the second casualty of Covid  and it seems to me that every frustration , family life, money troubles  , work troubles , unemployement  . All the woes that have dropped like a ton of bricks  on an already stretched and stressed population  especially over the previous four years have  pushed many people to their limits . People are looking for something to focus their angry frustration on , all that  hate and fear  and frustration  has a visible symbol of their loss of control in their lives , a person wearing a mask is the symbol of the percieved opression  and  "coersion " as they would describe it . Throwing off their mask is throwing off the opressive State ( in their pained minds ) , getting these " Socialist "  and immigrant loving  as well , of course , the N Lovers who want to destroy the America  ( any country  )  of their dreams , a chicken in every pot and two cars in every driveway and women etc who once knew their place in society  ( to serve Men and make babies ) . 

    When you see Afganistan and The Taliban  and what they are about to do ( yet again) , just listen ....they want to bring back a country from Biblical times when women knew their place , school is not part of teir place ) , brutal inhumane punishments for so- called crimes  , picture a black child accused of getting too close to a white woman ( later said she lied )  and being beaten sensless and lynched in public with families in the crazed audience . People who demand that their version of God  being accepted is the only way to save your soul ....sound familiar  ? This is a strategy of opressors everyplace . 

    Not trying to open old wounds but The Reverend Ian Paisley comes to mind when I think of religious Zealots and how destructive they are to normal civilized discourse  and to society in general .

   Better hit the hay now .

Thank you again Bill , a true Gentleman and a scholar  . If I had a choice of people to sit with for an afternoon and buy them a Pint and maybe a Snifter of the good stuff it would be yourself Bill .  Like " The Notorious RBG  ( not the Rapper !)  You add light , humor and elegance  to a troubled world ...and I might add , a little giggle or belly laugh just when we need it .

All the best my Friend ...Eamon  ☘💚🤗

Sun Aug 15, 2021 3:35 am

Hiya, Eamon:  It is hard not to boil over in frustration when witnessing the kind of short-sighted and selfish people you reference.  And they are all around us, yet unless they are wearing one of those red MAGA hats or some other item of clothing that gives them away, you don't know who they are until something sets them off, like being asked to wear a mask.  Lately I've seen items about health care workers and teachers who disdain wearing masks or getting vaccinated, which is amazing.  The ignorance runs deep and no profession is immune.  Good luck to all of us.  Stay well.  HenryM

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Sun Aug 15, 2021 6:51 am

 

  Bill wrote:  

Hello Magoo. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on such important issues. I found it interesting that you juxtaposed the selflessness of the medical staff with the selfishness of 'certain others'. For the past few months I have been trying to focus my (rhyming) attention onto 'kindness’, rather than my usual subject matter of unkindness and bullying. I must say that quite often it is difficult to discuss kindness without juxtaposing it to its ugly counterpart. Usually I try to reason these contradictions out via verse, so I will share one such attempt with you here:

YIN AND YANG OF KINDNESS.

Kindness is a complex concept, yet, so often, is a percept that makes it seem to stand apart, devoid of any counterpart. Through yin and yang, it can be shown, that kindness does not stand alone, so, maybe it’s most apposite juxtaposed with its opposite.

To give to kindness its true voice, we should view it as a choice, between what may seem right or wrong, in terms of what’s done by the strong.

An act of kindness or of care may, on the face of it, seem fair, and this will seem desirable, especially with the vulnerable.

But what is kindness all about? And why should kindnesses stand out? The answers to these questions hide in what is on the other side.

For unkindness, has for too long, been the thing we think is wrong, and hence, when people do what’s right, it shines an even brighter light.

Thus, I encourage folks to see these acts as a complexity, and understand what is at stake. in choices that humans may make.

Most human beings think things through, and have a choice in what they do. So, those who chose the kindness path, bequeath a better aftermath.

                                           Be Withers 2021

Also, in the spirit of giving credit where it’s due, I’ll share another rhyme with you. This one emanated from a previous post where, ‘Mr Magoo’ showed us he cared. Best wishes Bill

 

MR. MAGOO .

It’s true, I knew Mr. Magoo, who seemed to know just what to do at times when things weren’t going right and scope for hope was out of sight.

Mr. Magoo was one of few, who liked to think the bad things through, and come up with solutions where he showed us all how we can care.

From Mr. Magoo’s point of view, he thought that life had some value, and therefore, should be worth the price of people trying to be nice.

As always, he would bear in mind, that when someone tries to be kind, it has a positive effect upon themselves in that respect.

Thus, to make our lives worthwhile, he’d advocate that we should smile, and treat each person as a friend, which may reward us in the end.

Mr. Magoo once said to me, that being kind can set us free from most of our troubles and strife that make us miserable in life.

I think it’s worth bearing in mind, it costs us nothing to be kind, so, practice being kind and you might imitate Mr. Magoo.

At times, when our lives are askew, think what Mr. Magoo might do, be gentle, kind and raise a smile, simply to make our lives worthwhile.

                                           Be Withers 2021

 

 

 



Bill, what a kind and thoughtful post. I hope Magoo will print it and tack it to his fridge. We could use a lot more of both of you on this site.

 

Laurie

Sun Aug 15, 2021 8:49 am

Again spot on my friends. You never know some of those non believers may change but probably more chance of a unicorn 🦄 farting rainbows lol 😂 XX

Tue Aug 17, 2021 4:57 am

 

  Caz67 wrote:  

Again spot on my friends. You never know some of those non believers may change but probably more chance of a unicorn 🦄 farting rainbows lol 😂 XX

 



😜🥳...Hope you don't mind if I steal that one  Caz ....it really brings home just how unlikely that would be  🙂💚. When people are just angry and frustrated by life in general they really want someone , even a Huckster / Conman  to point their finger at ,. People want to blame someone , a person or a group to aim their " slings and Arrows :" at  ,  A target  is picked and  unscrupulous media figures will lead the charge from their  Comfy Chairs  and enjoy the unfolding chaos. . At the extreme the " Other"  is dehumanized , Jews were " Vermin" to Nazis ,   The Tutsis  in Rwanda were  filthy " Cockroaches  " and it's ok to exterminate Cockroaches , Vermin ...doesn't matter how you do it , Zyklon B ,  Machetes , Bullets . Pol Pot in Cambodia  and the Kmer Rouge  executed peole who wore glasses because they were thought to be intellectuals  and would only teach the younger generations  the old , bad Bourgeois attitude and habits . The country haz to be " Zerod out , begin the new society  as Year One and start the indoctrination at birth .  Fascists  do their dirty work in the midst of turmoil  , they thrive on conflict and Creating enemies that do not really exist is their weapon of choice , " The Enemies List "   as concieved by Nixon  or Sen Joe McCarthy  who had his list of "Commies " (  a Boyscouts compared to our conrtemporary  scoundrels )  , a list to which Ronald Regan  contributed  , turning on fellow Hollywood personalities . Edward Teller helped destroy the life and carreer of Oppenheimer  because Oppenheimer  showed a humane regret for the use of  " Little Boy   and Fat Man "  against civilians , a very complicated issue . 

Anyway enough rambling for now . Just a thought ...if they had not been used and this type of opportunity arose again ( to test them on humans , to win a righteous war )  it would be Hydrogen Bombs  and not their much less powerful Brothers . Maybe Fate sacrificed hundreds of thousands of lives  to  make humanity take a better look at the worldwide  repercussions  resulting from the scarily more powerful Hydrogen Bombs . The most powerful Hydrogen Bomb was detonated by Russia  in Oct 1961  and that one bomb could have wiped the entire city of Paris and suburbs  completely off the map in an instant .  The detonation is said to have scared the shit out of the Atomic powers  when  Fermi and the team concluded that there is no real upper limit to the ower and destructive potential  , as Oppenheimer  said  at the destruction of Hiroshima and Nagasaki  , he believed that the bombs could possibly cause an uncontrolled  nuclear reaction that  could even set the atmosphere on fire  and engulf the entire planet  in fire and radioactivity !!  , it would just keep reacting until there was nothing left to react to .

   Anyway  these frightening  and possibly Earth destroying  bombs  must be kept on a tight leash as should the world leaders who have their finger on the trigger .  It is possible for one man to  destroy most of the planet  with the push of a button .  So to all the hesitant  voters out there  your single vote can make the difference between  getting a  possibly Psychotic  , unstable Narcissist  President without an ounce of empathy  caring Only for his Ego  and his bank account  and getting a caring , sane President  who the American people  respect and trust .  Wow , I really strayed in this message my fellow shit-Baggers  It started off simple and got way off the reservation .!! 🙂☘

Eamon . Stay safe  y'all  and no kissing strangers ...yet ,  Winter draws closer  and Covid is lurking in all those vapour drops which can emerge from your mouth and nose 

Tue Aug 17, 2021 10:35 am

Hi eammon feel free to use my unicorn 🦄🦄 and rainbow 🌈 lol 😂 XX

Tue Aug 17, 2021 5:53 pm

Thank you Cz .... I'm sitting in the sun surrounded by  5 different types of small Tomatoes , fresh off the vine are soooo sweet and beautiful . Peppers , sugar snap peas and green beans . The house is in a beautiful valley filled with Redwoods and Oaks , Hit the jackpot of places to isolate in , got our shots a while ago .

Stay safe and healthy 💚☘❤

Wed Aug 18, 2021 12:17 am

I meant to say that the Russian H Bomb  , biggest ever was  a staggering   100 Megatons , poked a hole in the Stratosphere , scary shit  !!! 🤡....the Clowns are still running the world .

Eamon .

Thu Aug 19, 2021 2:07 am

Sounds like a beautiful place, do you want to send me some Tom's over also a bit of sunshine would be very welcome 🥰 XX

Thu Aug 19, 2021 5:19 am

It is indeed , very beautiful and very hot lately . There are two Redwoods just beside the front deck that are about 100 feet tall . They grow in pairs and when they're established a bunch of new shoots come out at the bottom . This eventually  creates a Grove .  Picking up some leaves I almost grabbed a black Scorpion about  4 inches long  . I gently put it back into the woods after getting  thick gloves , got Rattlers here too .

I'x send off those Cherry ztomatoes  in the AM .  😜...stay safe CZ . 

By the way , my story is exactly the same as yours  , survival was  doubtful for weeks , touch and go but here we are . It's hard to kill a bad thing ..as they say in Co Mayo .

💚☘🐻

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