As of Friday, 9th September 2011, I became a permanent ostomate!!
After over a year of problems with the J-pouch (which hadn't ever been used), I finally called it a day and chose the bag. There was also the fact that I was told it would never work!
I got the J-pouch on 23rd July 2010 and never had the stoma closed. I had abscess after abscess and was in and out of the hospital at least 10 times! I had a rectal drain in the pouch from day one and finally, in August 2011, I was told that there really is no hope for the pouch. So, come September, I had the pouch taken out and a permanent end ileostomy put in, and 2 weeks post-op, I could not be happier!
I know I'm only 18 and I'm "stuck with the bag for life now," but to be honest, if people don't like it, that's their problem. I have to live with it, and I don't want negativity around me anymore! I can't wait to start my life again and get back out and about with the bag keeping me healthy and pain-free, two things that I haven't been for a long time!! There's also the fact that all my friends are now 18, so we can go out and go to the pub more often, and I've got college and finally getting on with my life to look forward to!
I'm the happiest I have been in a long time, and it's all thanks to finally "giving in" and welcoming the stoma like an old friend!

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Great site..I have had an colostomy over 30 years..and have been thru skin rash around my stoma,hernias(2), leaks, odor control , needed clothing suggestions and this site has helped me with recommendations and many ideas worked!
I wish it was around 30 years ago. Thank you everyone!
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