The ostomy-sex question

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Bill




THE OSTOMY-SEX QUESTION.







Some people have a strong desire



to poke and probe and to enquire.



Their questions sometimes can perplex



especially when they ask of sex.







The questions that they ask of me



about my sex and ostomy,



can be a mite discomforting



as well as quite embarrassing.







Ostomates have got together,



To carefully consider whether



We could list things we might say



if these questions came our way.







We got together and we thought



Of things to say as a retort.



Now we have more counter-measures



in our little store of treasures.







If it’s someone you don’t like



you could tell them to “take a hike!”



Or if you think they want to pry



ask them if they want a try.







For those that ask about ‘THE-BAG’



“Does it affect the way we shag?”



We might reply “You are a pratt -



don’t talk about my wife like that!”







If the person seems to scoff



I tell them that “I’ll take it off.



Then I will be completely nude.



and we can both be seen as ‘rude’”.







“When wanting sex becomes your aim



bags and baggage are the same.



For each can carry so much shit.



and that may be the crux of it.”







B.Withers 2012

Primeboy

Well said, Bill. Your poem is a great description of how we respond or may respond to the nagging curiosity some people have about how our ostomies affect our sexual activities. Seeing this discussion cast in poetic form, however, I was immediately reminded of the following lines from a Yeats' poem entitled "Crazy Jane Talks with the Bishop" where Jane gives an arrogant hypocrite a real lesson in life and love: "But Love has pitched his mansion in the place of excrement; for nothing can be sole or whole that has not been rent." It's a fairly short poem but has great value to folks challenged by the body-image self-worth delusion. Check it out. PB

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Bill
Hello Primeboy,Thank you for your supportive comments and the introduction to crazy Jane.I met that crazy Jane today who sent the bishop on his way.If she'd have lived within my life I would have loved her for my wife.Best wishesBill
Bill
I got on a roll with this one so I continued with a similar vent on ostomy smell ( see blog!) I hope this isn't one verse too much. Best wishes Bill
WOUNDED DOE

Very cool poem, I like it very much....and Prime Boy you have me looking up Yeats now :) I'm sure this topic has affected most of us at some time in our lives and poetic verse does seem to soften the topic.....

 
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christiesdad

I have had my reversal for some time now, so I don't experience what you describe about sex and the bag. But when I had the bag, it was not that much of a problem, as far as sex goes. Not even the odor. Hey, look at Tiki's photos and profile. Doesn't seem to bother her at all. As a matter of fact...