I came as close to death as was possible when my appendix exploded and my abdomen was filled with infection for 2 days before I arrived at the emergency room. By God's grace, I survived. There were 23 loved ones reciting the rosary for me in the visitors' lounge. I attribute my survival to those prayers. I am now faced with the decision as to whether I should have a reversal done in order to free myself from the ileostomy bag. I am leaning towards not having the reversal. I have a good quality of life. I can pretty much eat whatever I want. I will not experience constipation, diarrhea, hemorrhoids, and the need to wear Depends. Our bodies were not meant to last forever, and for the last 61 years, my body has served me faithfully. I am content with my quality of life and I am quite hesitant to take a chance on the risks of the surgery and the aftermath. I believe we are all spiritual beings experiencing life in a human body, and that someday, when we cross over to the next life, we will be given new bodies, eternal ones. So I live with gratitude in my heart because to me, each day is a precious gift that I might not have had, should my surgeon not have been so wonderful in saving my life. I do not experience low self-esteem as some do, as my body does not define who I am. My purpose here is not over and I am focused on the remaining good I can do for others while I am still here. I am happy. Life will never be quite the same, but that's okay. :-)

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Eagles2023
Yeah wow, this site helped so much, I mean really who do you know with this infliction? No one, felt so alone and disgusted by myself every turn.
But it ended up being so damn strengthening, I got fucking moving, really only another choice.
That's
Honesty
Truth
I was damaged by a procedure and ended waking with this, I understand all of you.. perhaps you had to have it, I get it.. doesn't matter either way.
Just wanted to share that