On 16 Jan 2009 (while on active duty in the US Army), I went in for a colonoscopy since I was having problems. I woke up, still sleepy from the drugs they gave me, to be told by my GI doctor that I have cancer. He didn't know the stage yet. I went in for surgery in March 2009, during which they took out 34 lymph nodes. One tested positive, so it put me at stage 3 cat B, close to stage 4. I also woke up with an ileostomy, which disappointed me. But I dealt with it as best as I could. I was mad and angry for many, many reasons - for having cancer and being a single mom with 2 children still at home. Mad for having the bag, thinking it was horrible, sick, etc. My thoughts were going everywhere - how were my children going to handle it? To my surprise, my children handled it pretty well. They were dealing with me having cancer. I had to undergo radiation and chemo for a month, then a month off, and back to chemo. I had several surgeries on my colon to remove blockages, etc. During all this, I couldn't wait to be "rehooked" up so I could be "normal". Once being hooked up, it was a long, long journey. I had to wear diapers, I couldn't go far in the beginning, had to stay close to home, or always know where the bathroom was. I had to take a diaper bag at all times. I started to learn how to take Imodium to slow things down, so to speak. I learned to watch what I ate and drank. I spent most of my time in bed from the pain I felt and always being tired, etc. In 2011, I underwent another scope since I had radiation done and the surgeries. My colon is so thin, they preferred my bowel, so I had to go in for surgery. So I thought I was doing better. Well, not really. I would speak to my surgeon about getting my ileostomy reversed, but I couldn't make the decision for sure. I started to have changes in my bowel. So in September of this year, I went in for another scope. It went fine, I was in recovery for a while. Then all of a sudden, I couldn't breathe, my throat was swelling up along with my eyes. They put me on a vent and took me right into the OR. They took X-rays and saw that air had gone into a lot of places in my body, which is why I blew up like a balloon. Anyway, once in the OR, they saw I had a hole in my colon (which meant stool had been leaking into my body), covered up by scar tissue. So they removed that part of the colon and gave me the ileostomy. Once in the ICU, I was told I had the ileostomy back. I was relieved. This time around, I am handling it better. I'm glad I have it back, and so are the 2 children I still have at home. We are able to go out more, not have to worry about diapers or bathrooms, and I can pretty much eat and drink anything and everything. What makes me happy is to see my children (I have 5 total), the 2 I have at home, smile when they see we can go out more. And of course, my grandsons who are 4 and 3. I still get tired at times, but I do feel better than I have in the last few years. I now wish I would have gone and had the scope done a while ago. I know I can't go back in the past and change anything. I am glad I went in for the scope. I have no plans of being reconnected. I will stay this way.
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