In case you haven't read my profile I'm heartoobig. I've had an ileostomy since October 2011. I'm not computer savvy in fact I'm using a kindle fire which I got after the operation. What I'm getting at is that I went into my operation without much knowledge of what I was getting into. I hope I'm not going to come across as I feel sorry for myself. I've read on here stories from other people with ileostomy and these guys can eat almost anything and have a good life and I'm jealous. I have a terrible problem with gas ALL the time. I have tried every product there is to get rid of it but nothing helps. So my diet is so limited, I've tried eating a few bites of vegetables now and then but my bag gets to the point where it's going to blow (and has blown). I LOVE VEGETABLES and I miss them SO much and my health has declined alot. It's not just that, I don't like my life with this thing! Honestly if I had known how my life was going to be like before not having my colon, I'd just let the cancer take me.
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Posted by: iMacG5
About seven years ago, just about every aspect of my life was ostomy related. From the moment I was told an ostomy might be needed until some months down the road I existed as a person afflicted with a colostomy. I feared someone other than my immediate family might find out I had a bag. Ugh! What could be worse? Suppose it filled real fast when I was out with no place to hide and take care of myself. God forbid should it leak in church! Suppose I roll over on it in bed. I was a lesser creature, destined to a life of emotional anguish and physical routines different from most of the rest of the world. I felt like a freak. Then I found folks like you guys here, read your stuff, really “listened” to what you had to say and I began looking at things differently. We know perception is everything and I began to understand how good things were relative to what they could’ve been. So many folks had it so much worse than I did. That didn’t make my discomfort go away but it exposed how fortunate I was to be dealing with my stuff and not their’s. I felt a little guilt, maybe selfishness but quickly forgave myself by understanding I just wasn’t smart enough to fix my feelings. Then, I wonder what smarts have to do with feelings. My perception was warped so my perspective toward my existence was warped.
I learned over the last few years with the help of lots of folks right here at MAO that I could be better at living just by accepting some facts. It is what it is and so what? It’s not the worst thing to happen to a person.
I think everything is, in some way, related to everything else. I just put the ostomy thing in the back seat and drive forward.
Respectfully,
Mike
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