Okay, I'm going to put myself out there with this one. I really miss sex. I know I'm married, but sex with my wife and I has gone the way of the dinosaur. It very rarely happens, I mean I can count on one hand how many times in a year..... I can't help but think it is the ostomy. Every time I try to talk about it, I get the "nothing's wrong" answer, yet nothing changes. I admit that we never had a wild sex life, but since 2005, not so much. I even work out on a regular basis to try to give her something to look at besides my ostomy. Did that sound right? I hope it didn't come out the wrong way. I miss the intimacy and being close and everything that goes with it, emotionally and physically. It just kind of makes me feel like damaged goods.
Does anyone else have problems getting their partners intimate or in the mood since their ostomy surgery? Or is it just me????
Paul
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Mar 14, 2009 12:26 pm

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