Discussing Intimacy Challenges in the LGBT Community

I never see any posts or questions about how gay men and women handle intimate times. I just happen to be bisexual. It is very embarrassing to be with another man because the bag is right there in your face.

Hi Joseph, I’m thinking higher waisted underwear with strategic cutouts would solve the exposed bag problem. I have high waisted crotchless panties that cover my bag and never need to come off.

You never see any posts? Where have you looked, my friend?

You are new here. Gotta navigate the forums.

There are posts. There are real people here just like you, wanting just like you.

Fear not.

There is a forum for the community. Look it up.

There are both gay men and women writing in like you are.

They meet each other on this forum or the other which is above, in the icons.

We don't hear from them afterwards because they connect, talk, do their thing like we do.

I use a nylon wrap nearly every night. It also helps knowing the bag is not going to get snagged in the sheets.

Hi, 

I'm ready to have these conversations. 

 

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Lgbt or not when you think about it anal is the only difference between us....just flick bag out the way same as women do going down on a man with a bag or vice versa....Time that's we all need to get our confidence back then nothings a problem 

Well said, Ben.

There are also a lot of intimate clothing or accessories that will, in fact, take your mind off what might be either staring you in the face or flapping in the bang of things.

Being butt naked in front of your partner... seems old school.

And very scary. Gotta think outside the box. Be creative even if it's your first poke.

One of the best/funniest posts ever on this site was about your question. The question was about how to stop the bag from slapping your partner on the forehead. 😂 Sorry, no help to your question, it just made me remember reading that post when I was new to the site. I think everyone is adult enough to figure out how to get around the bag, good luck. 

I remember that one .. 😂🤣😂

G-Day eefyjig, I now see you in a new light. You just made my day. Regards, IGGIE

Oh behave! 

Oh my, you're making me blush!

Try a body wrap or maybe a horizontal Stealth Belt.

There have been many posts on this site about gay issues with an ostomy. Gay or straight... We have the same issues of body image and intimacy. And the practical issues... how to prevent the bag from slapping a forehead. Ok... funny... but a real concern.

Ask a specific question. You will get specific answers. Don't be shy about being explicit.

Preventing bag slapping: Eat a couple of marshmallows 45 to 60 minutes before showtime (helps slow output). Change to a new bag before the pounding begins. Fold the new bag in half, once upwards. Secure the folded bag with Hypafix tape, or if you're using a 2-piece wafer/bag system, use 2 IGGIE clips to secure the bag on both sides of the flange. (IGGIE clips and Hypafix tape are explained in detail in many other posts, just gotta do a little research). The folded bag will shield the stoma from view. The bag will not swing... no matter how much you try.

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That was my thought as well. It doesn’t exactly matter who is sleeping with who, we are all dealing with it the same when it comes to intimacy.