Hi I'm kev, I'm a single father of one, I'm 48 and down to earth and easy going, I'm looking to date but finding it hard due to me having a stoma.
kevingibney1976
Dec 31, 2024 10:59 am
warrior
Dec 31, 2024 12:07 pm
Welcome Kevin.
May I suggest you copy this intro into your profile? It will help you later on. Just a suggestion.
Kudos, you found the right forum to post it right out of the gate, being new.
In this forum you posted, you will find many like you, male and female.
You are young and having a child will say a lot about your character.
Don't let the stoma be part of that great character, dude.
You will hear from members "don't let it define you" or stop you.
You have options to date a bagger or non-bagger. Options to tell them about it or not.
It doesn't matter you have one.
It should not be about you and worries. You may find a partner who understands or not; you may also find a partner that has issues worse than you.
To lighten this a bit, I dated a woman who had a loss of smell from birth.
Whoa? Right? Especially due to our bathroom needs, right?
Well, ha ha, since she could not regulate perfume as normal women do, she, um... er... didn't use it.
You think your bag smells?
You haven't smelled anything until you smell... body odor on a beautiful woman. 🤦♂️
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Create an account and you will be amazed by the warmth of this community.
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xnine
Dec 31, 2024 12:26 pm
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Ben38
Dec 31, 2024 3:28 pm
You just haven't met the right person yet. Enjoy your life, get out there, have fun, keep asking when you come across anyone you like. The right one will say yes; a stoma won't be an issue for them.
aTraveler
Jan 05, 2025 8:33 am
Just remember, every "No" gets you closer and closer to that "Yes" you are looking for. No one wants to date a wimp, show self assurance and confidence, it goes a long way. Ask Charlie the tuna. 😊
By all means have a sense of humor. 😉
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rondurgin7
Jan 05, 2025 2:38 pm
Don't make a big deal of it. There will always be people who understand. After a while you can inform the other person of your medical problem. Have your dates and friendships. Their need to know only becomes a problem, or not, if you make it one.
BlazeHuber
Feb 09, 2025 11:13 pm
My partner was aware from the beginning about my stoma. She was very supportive. She says she does not even notice it, doesn't think about it. I think you have to be open about it from the beginning. You are very, very fortunate if you have desire, want intimacy, and you are super golden, mate, if you can perform. Look for the right partner and celebrate every moment she is in front of you. Pay attention to what is in front of you.