I was rushed into emergency surgery on Feb 23 this year. At first, I didn't think I could cope with the mess. I have found products that make it easier. At first, I cried constantly. Now I can shower without a tape covering.
I still hate the ostomy, but I'm not crying all the time. My family has been wonderful, helping with everything. The backup support is vital.
tbird56b
May 22, 2025 2:50 am
IGGIE
May 22, 2025 3:56 am
G-Day tbird56b,
Well done, and it does get better as you get more used to your new norm.
Regards, IGGIE
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MeetAnOstoMate website turned out to be a lifesaver for me. I say this because, for me, this ostomy journey was a devastating event both physically and mentally.
Here, I found folks who understood my feelings even better than my family or friends could. Only a fellow ostomate can understand how you really feel.
Information sharing is key, as well as support and understanding, to ultimately bring more harmony into our ostomy life journey. I found here, virtually no ostomy questions that are not touched upon. Questions which some might feel, may be too trivial to contact a doctor about or even too shy or embarrassed to ask their own doctor about. They are all addressed here.
For me, anonymity was very helpful in seeking answers to each phase of this life changing medical and mental event. Sharing initial trauma feelings, ongoing support and finally acceptance was what I found with my membership here. I am not sure what my mental and physical attitude would be today without having found this site.
Additional benefits included: finding products and ideas to help with daily maintenance, innovative ideas and as a bonus - some great humor.
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I have been a member for 3 years, an ostomate for 4 years - yes, I certainly wish I would have found it immediately after surgery but so very thankful I finally found it when I did as I truly believe it turned my troubled depression and situation into a more positive attitude and acceptance.
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Axl
May 22, 2025 4:57 am
Hi tbird
I'm happy you are finding your way.
Everyone does in the end.
Good for you.
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SusanT
May 22, 2025 12:05 pm
Keep moving forward. You can do anything with an ostomy that you could do without it. So get out there and start doing what you like. The ostomy will fade into the background once you are enjoying your life again.
Morning glory
May 22, 2025 1:17 pm
So happy for you that you are adjusting and moving forward. It does get better and the family support makes it even better.
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Justbreathe
May 22, 2025 2:23 pm
Family and friends are great support. Finding this website will be a huge help as well - the folks here truly understand your feelings (fears) and will answer so many of your questions as well as your “unasked” questions.
WELCOME 🫶🏼👊 jb
TerryLT
May 22, 2025 9:11 pm
I totally relate. I ended up with an ostomy after a trip to the ER myself, so no time to prepare for the huge change in my life. It is a big adjustment, but it sounds like you are getting there. Good for you. Once you've found a system that works for you, it's a big step. And having a good support system is vital. This group has helped me in so many ways.
Terry