Feeling Alone with My Health Struggles and Relationship Issues

I have been wearing a colostomy bag since I was 11 years old. Then my bladder started to act up, and they gave me a urostomy bag. I have had it since I was 17. So, I have been going through this for a long time, and I'm still not used to these bags. I am a recovering cancer patient, so I have a lot more going on. I have been with one man, and now he's cheating. The only reason I can think of why he is doing this to me is because of the bags and my other problems. I was okay with it, but now I'm just depressed. As a child, I missed out on a lot, and now that I am grown, I'm mostly depressed and don't know what to do. Any advice?

You definitely have been through a lot! I am a cancer survivor as well, 4 times. It is easy to get depressed, but you are obviously a very strong woman to have survived what you have been through. You do not deserve to be cheated on. And I don't think it has anything to do with your bags. Some men (and women) are just cheaters. Move on to someone who deserves you! Being an ostomate does not make you less of a person! Don't feel like you have to stay with someone who treats you like anything but the wonderful person you are! I had to see a doctor for my depression and a counselor, and they have both helped me tremendously. And of course, you have the wonderful people on this site to talk to anytime! We are all here to help! Jane

Don't feel bad about your depression, as most of us wearing the bag go through depression, and I personally take meds for it. There is help for you, and you don't need a cheating guy to make your life miserable. Don't put yourself down; you are still young and have a life to live. Hope you get some meds. Help is here for you.
Joyce

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