My daughter has had an ostomy for 2 years—she is 23 and will not talk to anyone about her condition. She has not adapted to it very well. I think you and she could be friends. We are in Indianapolis and I will try to connect on Facebook.
owlet
Feb 23, 2012 4:59 pm
mild_mannered_super_hero
Feb 23, 2012 5:26 pm
Perhaps you could suggest to her to join this site, where she can interact with others her age in similar circumstances. I hope so...
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Posted by: Puppyluv56
Hi Deb,
As you can see, the outpouring of love and support from this website will help you to find the strength to lift yourself up and out of your current emotional situation. I am lucky to have my husband by my side through all of this, so I will not even pretend to know how you feel and what you're going through alone. I do know that I have great friends on this site and in my life that have been by my side, and hopefully you have many by your side as well. You do have a lot of new friends here. Please feel free to talk through anything that is on your mind. We all go through a confidence deficit when we go through an ostomy surgery. Our body has been marred and your mind feels that way sometimes too. It is tough to move on, but you will. You will be stronger once you realize that you are still the beautiful woman you were prior to your surgery. Hopefully, you can reach out to a local support group and find some additional friends in your same situation. It always helps to have a sounding board wherever you find it!
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mooza
Feb 24, 2012 1:41 pm
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Hey darl, your daughter is and most likely still so shocked. We all feel very alone sometimes or another, like we can't go on, but I really think if she did have a peek at this site, especially Franicaa, she might take a look in here and just maybe want to talk about her situation. It's very hard at any age. My first op, I didn't end up with a stoma, but 6 months later at 28, I got the dreaded thing but never heard of this site back in the late 90s. I think you are an awesome mum to get on here and spend some time to understand the lovely peeps that are wanting to vent or just type how they feel. Hope you can give her a small step into this site. xxxxxxxx Mooza (been there, done that) like many of us. Thanks for sharing. xxxxx
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Lobster
Feb 24, 2012 1:52 pm
try and get your daughter to have a look at this site. Whilst it won't change anything physically it will let her know that she is not alone and that what she thinks and feels is the same as many other people. Knowledge is strength.
Yukon steve
Feb 27, 2012 8:19 pm
After my ileostomy, I totally withdrew, and finding this site was accidental while looking for information on my problems. I have found that I get more out of everyone here than anywhere else, as you are all supportive and have gone through the same both mentally and physically. I hope your daughter will sign up. I had a successful reversal in January, but I am going to stay a member to show my support for all of you.
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