|But when is it the right time to tell somebody that u have colonstmy.|
since you have no replies. i think right after sex and just before the chloroform wears off completly is a good time ......
ok, now that i have your attn...i usally wait till about the 3rd date...no need informing the whole world about it and you should know by then if you are interested in going further.
you might mention that you have a "secret" or something to that effect on the ending of the second date...that will give any woman time to think about any and every possible "thing" you might have to tell them. this will sometimes cause them to accept a physical flaw with relife when they find out you havent been to prision or arent a serial killer..ect
please keep in mind the above is just my opinion.... good luck
Perhaps before you go on a date, try telling a few friends or workmates who don't know, then you feel comfortable disclosing it. Good luck!
dont care who knows,its the new Penny...
My experince in the dating realm , with an ostomy has taught me a thing or two. There is no magical date number to inform someone. I typically go about the fourth..only because, by the third date, I have a decent idea if I want to invest more of my time in the person. That seems to be my pattern.
I have also realized that it really doesn't matter when you tell someone, most people either are, or are not, the type of person that can accept an ostomy. No amount of time getting to know someone better seems to change that much. That's not what I beleived in teh beginning. I do not say that with bitterness at all...I have had both good and not so good experiences.
My truth is this, I have an ostomy, I am grateful for it, and if a person sees that as a deal breaker, then they aren;t really the person for me anyway.
I don't really care who knows or not...
Be happy with what you have in this moment, don't wait for what if's or when's...live your life, and be happy, and you will attract other that do the same.
Sondra, 42, Hamilton