My 82-year-old mother had an emergency ileostomy last July. We thought we'd lose her, but she has recovered well and now is ready for the reversal. She has adjusted well to living with the ostomy; pretty much back to her old self. Her questions echo my concerns: since she has adjusted, is it worth having the reversal? Now she can live life as she wants and control her ostomy, though she hates it like everyone else...but from what we hear, the possible diarrhea? Wet farts? Runs? Burning rectum? Cramps? Hernias? Infections? More surgeries? All sound far too scary...is that the norm? Can a former ostomy patient ever have normal bowel habits and go back to the way things were? She is 82 with other minor health issues and is realistic...to her, if the trade-off of getting rid of a disgusting yet manageable bag is soiling yourself often and not leaving the house, then that is not much of an improvement in quality of life...I'm sure there are good results out there, but it's human nature to take heed of the disaster ones...appreciate any helpful thoughts?
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Hi Deb,
As you can see, the outpouring of love and support from this website will help you to find the strength to lift yourself up and out of your current emotional situation. I am lucky to have my husband by my side through all of this, so I will not even pretend to know how you feel and what you're going through alone. I do know that I have great friends on this site and in my life that have been by my side, and hopefully you have many by your side as well. You do have a lot of new friends here. Please feel free to talk through anything that is on your mind. We all go through a confidence deficit when we go through an ostomy surgery. Our body has been marred and your mind feels that way sometimes too. It is tough to move on, but you will. You will be stronger once you realize that you are still the beautiful woman you were prior to your surgery. Hopefully, you can reach out to a local support group and find some additional friends in your same situation. It always helps to have a sounding board wherever you find it!
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