Dating as a Single Parent with an Ostomy

Single parent, 27 years old, had my ostomy since May. I think I need to start dating!

Get out there and start, and let the world see how beautiful you are. You are ready. Good luck. Michael

Thanks, Michael. I'll try, fingers crossed!
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Don't give up on dating; I met my husband here 5 years ago! He has a colostomy too. I have dated non-ostomates, and having a bag wasn't a problem—just normal stuff.       Maggie

You look dateable to me...
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Seriously, just be yourself, and personally, I would be as upfront as possible about the ostomy, just as you would be with being a single parent. That filters out the losers right away without any hurt feelings.

Good luck to you.

My Ostomy Journey: Kimberly | Hollister

Thanks mtnbiker72.
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Still no dates. I had plenty of offers, but I just said no. I think I need to date somebody in the same situation as me!

Sophia, I've told my male friends about my bag, and they said it would bother them, but I just think I need to date someone the same as me first!

ment to write wouldn't bother them

Any man or woman that would view one of us as a lesser person because of our ostomy is obviously very shallow and obviously not good enough for us anyway.

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I've been in four relationships in the 18 years since my surgery, and I ended things each time. None of the ladies had a problem whatsoever with my bag. Most of the time, we are the ones with the problem of feeling different. I'll be the first to admit I've struggled with self-esteem issues, but each time, once I saw my partner didn't have an issue with it, then my issues went away.

Hi Jim, I hope you are doing great! You look great! I had a total colectomy 10 years ago that changed my life. For the last 10 years, it's been hard having to always make sure that a bathroom is always nearby. I have kept busy raising my 15-year-old daughter. The total colectomy has always been a huge issue with being able to do everything I have always wanted to do with her. She will be finished school in 2 years. My doctor has told me for many years that I needed an ileostomy. I am planning on doing that this summer. I put it off because of self-esteem issues and worrying about the bag and how it would make me feel and how anybody else could deal with my bag. I am hoping to start my life over once my daughter graduates. My chance is only the ileostomy. I need to get out of a bad marriage. I am hoping I will be able to work and live a life after surgery. It would be great to find someone with an ileostomy just like I would have. Just seeing how great and fit you look is an encouragement to me because I want to be able to continue my exercise routine after surgery. I hope you have a blessed night!

Since you mention wanting to date someone in your situation, there is a site called ostodate.com. I signed up a few days ago, but I'm not paying.

So I said to this girl, "Hey, how about a date?" She said, "Sure, Battle of Trafalgar 1805!!"

Don't worry, hun. There are plenty of people in our situation that deal with this every day. If I were closer, I'd definitely like to get to know you, but I would definitely like to sit as a pen pal and possibly be friends.

Hey hun, don't get down on yourself. I've had mine for only a month, and I am totally fine with it now. I always tell people if they can't handle me with it, they can't deal with me without it. And there are no limitations to what you can do.

Hi nighthawkssecurities, my life has changed for the better since having my op. I can have a reversal next year! I've got a little boy now. I can finally take him out every day swimming, etc. I went to my friend's christening 3 weeks after my op, then a night out, oh, and even went to a festival as well this year.
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The only thing I'm unsure of is dating, as I've had offers but just can't make myself say yes! Am I weird? Hahaha

Took me 8 years to get the confidence to start dating again
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LOL I played in a band at the time of my surgeries - and after one of them, I was doing a gig one week after getting out of the hospital! Just couldn't lift any of my equipment.

I've been seeing someone since I last wrote on here. He had no problem with my bag, oh, and the sex was good too, haha. We're friends with benefits now, lol. 😉

Wow, these are old posts.