hello, im new here and wanted to share my story and maybe get some advices.
ive got permanent ileostomy in jan 2018 due to UC. At that very moment my relations with my husband was not good for some years. Then i received a post-op space with some liquid. And cant have sex till i fix it.
Coz of all these troubles no i have just my son he is 17 and permanent ileostomy in my life. Will be glad to hear any ideas how to meet understanding person
I'm going through the same sort of thing, Irina. They tell me there are understanding guys out there...and I'm sure there are. It's finding them that's difficult. If you figure out a sure-fire way of doing that, please let me know! lol I'm sure everyone on this site who is single would like to know the secret. All I can say is for you to just go about meeting guys as you ordinarily would, and you're bound to run into the right one eventually. Don't focus on your ileostomy and try to keep in mind that you're a nice looking woman and one that any man in his right mind would like to get to know...ileostomy or no ileostomy. Good luck to you. You can do it!
Linda
Hello, I cannot not begin to imagine what it is like to have an Ileostomy and be dating. I have noticed that a great number of people on this site are single or separated. I just hope that people are not so shallow that they leave when the going gets rough! I am grateful that my husband is here for the long haul! Colostomy and all! Maybe someone that is going through the same thing would be a good match for a friend or more. Any Ostomy groups at your hospital? Good place to start I guess. Sorry that you have to go through this. It is bad enough to have the health issue without it causing personal issues as well.
Puppyluv
Yes, Puppyluv, you ARE lucky. I sure wish my husband were still alive. He would have been a great strength and would have made this whole thing a lot easier for me. I'm glad you're in a good marriage. We have no local ostomy group around here, unfortunately. Someone in the same condition certainly would be a good start...at least it would render the ostomy as a non-issue. That would really be nice.... Thanks for your empathy. I, and I'm sure Irina, appreciate it.
Weirdnewlife.
I guess I walk on both sides of this issue because my Husband has UC and I have been by his side for over 25 years. UC creates many challenges as well and it is just a part of our life as is now my Colostomy. I cannot not image leaving him because of it. My heart breaks for those that must deal with the health aspect of an Ostomy but then to deal with the loss of your spouse because they were weak and moved on. Makes my blood boil!
Puppyluv
Puppyluv,
Yes, I can sure agree with you about your feelings when someone loses a spouse because of a health issue that they have no control over. It's unimaginable to me how anyone could do that to someone they supposedly love. Talk about "kicking someone when they're down". Takes all kinds, I guess. About all I can say. We are both very lucky to have found a wonderful husband.
Hi, I have a permanent ostomy and I am a widow. I currently have a super bf and when I told him I have an ostomy all he said was no big deal. So far no big deal and btw I'm 61 y o. Relax people pick up your vibes. If your uncomfortable they will be too.
It just a different way to poop for me and hey I survived cancer who cares what anybody thinks I'm tough and alive. If people can't handle it they are not worthy of you.. Move on and know that the Lord has you in the palm of his hand.
Have permanent colostomy due to rectal cancer! Am widowed after 40 years of marriage, Died during one of my surgeries! Bored and joined several dating sites! Dated numerous women! Only bothered telling the ones when there was some chemistry! One is living with me now. She says it's no big deal and we are very intimate and are having fun! The others also accepted it! If they don't, their not worth being around! Keep trying and get out of house! If you can , go to senior citizens group or the dating sites like pof! Good luck!
