I need some advice or maybe just some support! I am three years in with an ostomy. I have tried to accept it and live with it, but I hate it! My colorectal surgeon said he would not ever reverse me considering I have had four colon resections and almost died from the last one. I have Crohn's disease. I have to admit I was a mess before the ostomy. Always in the hospital, missing time with my family due to severe pain. I have found a surgeon who will reverse me, so what do I do? My family is very much against it, but they are not living on the other side of this bag! I don't think I have had a decent night's sleep since I got the bag. Always worrying if it will leak or break open, which it has. And the noise it makes sometimes is embarrassing. What do I do?
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