The topic is about overcoming the anxiety that can come with changing clothes in a gym locker room when you have an ostomy. After avoiding it for over two years, someone finally took the step to change clothes in an empty locker room, which felt like a big personal achievement and a boost in confidence.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. Progress is personal: Everyone finds their comfort level with public exposure at their own pace. Celebrate each small victory without comparing yourself to others.

2. People often notice or care much less about changes in appearance than we think. Understanding this can help reduce anxiety about being seen with an ostomy.

3. Allow yourself to take things slowly. Only you can decide when you're ready to take the next step toward feeling confident in public.

4. For practical concealment, consider wearing a supportive garment like a support panty. If anyone asks, you can simply say it's for a hernia. This can make changing or showering in communal areas easier.

5. Plan ahead for changing your appliance when you're away from home. Carry necessary supplies, a small container for water, and find a private spot when needed.

6. Getting back to activities like going to the gym, traveling, swimming, or other adventures is entirely possible with an ostomy. Each successful experience can help build your courage for the next one.