Living with an ostomy can be challenging, and it’s understandable to feel overwhelmed, especially when new issues like a parastomal hernia arise. If you're experiencing discomfort and don't have anyone to talk to, here are some suggestions that might help:

1. Share specific details about your situation. This can help others provide more targeted advice. Consider describing any issues with your stoma, problems with your pouch, dietary habits, products you've tried, and what seems to trigger pain or leaks.

2. Reach out to your surgeon or stoma nurse as soon as possible regarding the hernia. They can determine if the hernia is contributing to your stomach upset and suggest treatment or repair options.

3. Consider wearing a hernia support belt:
- The NU-Comfort Ostomy/Hernia Support Belt is recommended by several people.
- The "Cool Comfort" model offers flexibility for everyday activities, while the solid model provides firmer support for more strenuous activities.
- Having multiple belts, such as six in rotation, can be helpful for laundering and accommodating different activity levels.
- These belts are often covered by insurance if prescribed, so ask your doctor for a prescription.

4. If your stomach upset might be related to acid or stress, you could try an over-the-counter proton-pump inhibitor like Prilosec OTC (omeprazole). Keep track of how it affects you and discuss any long-term use with your doctor.

5. Reevaluate your diet. Any recent changes in what you eat could be worsening your symptoms. Keeping a food diary and eliminating potential triggers might help.

6. Explore forum archives for more practical tips. The community is known for being supportive and experienced with similar challenges.