This topic is about someone who is having a hard time accepting their reversed stoma, even though they have another surgery planned soon. They are reaching out to see if others feel the same way and are struggling with acceptance.

Here are some key points and advice shared by others:

- The stoma originally saved this person's life, but now, two years later, it is taking a toll on their mental health.
- They spent three weeks in the hospital after the surgery and have never fully come to terms with having a stoma.
- Their partner has Alzheimer's, and they feel they lost valuable time with them while dealing with their own health issues.
- They express deep feelings of guilt and regret, and they believe they can only cope for one more year. They feel they might only accept the stoma if there were no other options.

Advice and insights from others include:

1. Perspective and Gratitude: Some people suggest trying to see the stoma from a positive angle, as it saved their lives. Focusing on the life-saving aspect might help outweigh concerns about appearance.

2. Adaptation Over Time: Acceptance can grow over time. Many find that they get used to the stoma, much like getting used to any other part of themselves.

3. Self-Care First: It's important to take care of your own health before you can effectively care for a loved one. Prioritizing self-care can be crucial.

4. Irrigation Option: Some suggest considering colostomy irrigation, which might reduce or eliminate the need to wear a pouch and could improve daily life quality.