This topic is about Geoff, a 37-year-old ostomate, who is on a heartfelt quest to find love. He has posted what he believes to be the first dating ad on a forum, describing himself as a "Prince Charming" or "Romeo." Geoff is looking for a partner who can appreciate his affection, loyalty, and old-fashioned values. He enjoys dining out, home-cooked meals, movies, spontaneity, and laughter. Despite having limited finances and living with a stoma, he promises to make his partner feel loved. Geoff hopes to meet someone who also has an ostomy to ease the anxiety of disclosure. Here are some pieces of advice and insights shared by others:

1. Be patient and realistic:
- Finding the right person may take time, and responses can be slow.
- Many people browse forums for information rather than dating, so don't judge the results too quickly.

2. Confidence and self-presentation:
- Focus on sharing who you are, including your interests and sense of humor, rather than just how much love you can give.
- Maintain a positive outlook and focus on your health.

3. Expand the search:
- Consider using mainstream dating sites like PlentyOfFish.com or Match.com, and disclose the ostomy when you feel comfortable.
- Join or create local ostomy societies or support groups to meet people in real life.

4. Disclosure strategies:
- Many partners are accepting of the pouch once a deeper connection is established.
- If someone truly loves you, the ostomy will not be a significant issue.

5. Success stories and encouragement:
- Some forum members have found long-term partners through the forum and dating sites, including international relationships.
- Honest and caring individuals are valued, and several women have expressed interest in a "Romeo" who understands life with an ostomy.

6. Women's perspectives:
- Women often appreciate when men take the initiative and value kindness, patience, and genuine interest.
- Self-confidence and respect are more important than looks or having a perfect body.

7. Practical tips:
- Be cautious of scammers and fake photos online.
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8. Shared challenges:
- Both men and women find it challenging to find partners who can accept a stoma, but the struggle is common and can be overcome.

9. Mind-set:
- Life is to be cherished, so enjoy it with someone who connects with you in other areas.
- Keep faith that the right person will come along, and many are rooting for Geoff's success.