Navigating love and intimacy after an ileostomy can be a journey filled with questions and concerns, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. If you've recently had an ileostomy or are facing the possibility of it becoming permanent, you might be wondering how to approach this new chapter in your life, particularly when it comes to sharing this part of yourself with potential partners. Here are some comforting pieces of advice and insights to help you along the way:

1. Prioritize your health and recovery. The right partner will accept you and your ostomy without hesitation.

2. Many people find partners who are understanding and supportive. Intimacy can take many forms—emotional, physical, or platonic—depending on what both individuals desire.

3. Real-world examples can be encouraging:
- One person has enjoyed a 23-year platonic relationship.
- Another has been married twice after surgery and has had a fulfilling sex life, with both spouses being completely accepting of her ostomy.

4. Self-acceptance is crucial. Once you are comfortable with your stoma, it often becomes a non-issue for most partners.

5. Relationships are unique to the people in them. Don’t assume how others will react; give them the opportunity to surprise you in a positive way.

6. Remember, there are "worse things than ostomies." Don’t let the appliance stop you from dating, traveling, or living your life to the fullest.

7. Take the time to understand what you want in terms of intimacy. Look for partners who value you for who you are, rather than seeking a casual encounter.

8. Keep pushing through treatment and any fears you may have. A positive mental outlook can overcome many relationship challenges.

Embrace this journey with an open heart and mind, and you may find that love and intimacy are still very much within reach.