The topic is about the delicate situation of telling a new romantic interest about having an ostomy. The person sharing their story has met someone special at a nightclub, and while he knows about her past illness, he is unaware of her ostomy and other related issues. She is seeking advice on how to approach this conversation, fearing possible rejection.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. Since he already knows about her past illness, she can use this as a starting point. She might begin by mentioning her bowel surgery and expressing her discomfort in discussing it. A caring partner will likely ask questions and offer reassurance.

2. Choose a private and quiet setting for this conversation, such as a table away from the dance floor or during a relaxed date. Share information gradually, only as much as she feels comfortable with at first.

3. Confidence is key. Remind him that despite the illness and the ostomy, she continues to dance and live life fully.

4. Timing is important, and opinions vary:
- Some suggest telling him soon to see his reaction, perhaps by asking if he’s familiar with “the bag.”
- Others recommend waiting until he is more invested in the relationship, introducing it gently, like saying, “I wear a small dressing on my tummy.”

5. Be prepared for mixed reactions. Some dates may back away, but those who stay are the ones who truly see beyond the ostomy.

6. For nights out and dancing:
- Don’t focus on the bag; just enjoy the moment.
- Empty the pouch before going out and during the evening, and avoid eating right before to keep it flat.
- Many have danced countless times without anyone noticing the appliance.
- Good posture and stylish clothing can boost confidence; being well-dressed can make a positive impression.

7. Emotionally, remember that almost everyone fears rejection, but taking the risk is better than missing out on potential love.

8. Long-term ostomates have found success wearing tight dresses, jeans, or low-rise trousers without visibility. The DANSAC Novalife pouch is noted for being low-profile and hard to detect.

9. Ultimately, if someone truly loves you, an ostomy will not change that. Let the relationship develop naturally, and the right partner will accept any “extra baggage” without issue.