This topic is about dealing with those awkward and sometimes intrusive questions that people with ostomies might face regarding their sex lives. The discussion revolves around using humor and confidence to handle these situations gracefully. Here's some advice and insights shared by the community:

1. Humor can be a powerful tool. Many find that using wit and humor can effectively disarm rude or nosy questions, helping to restore comfort and confidence during sensitive conversations.

2. A member suggests reading W. B. Yeats’ poem “Crazy Jane Talks with the Bishop.” The poem conveys that true love embraces all aspects of a person, even bodies that have been through changes, which can help combat body-image anxiety.

3. Personal experiences shared by members include:
- One person, who has since had their ostomy reversed, mentioned that sex was not much of a problem even when they had a pouch. They also noted that odor was not an issue.
- They also referred to another ostomate whose photos show that having an ostomy does not have to diminish one's attractiveness or sexuality.

4. The general consensus is that maintaining self-worth, humor, and openness is key. Focusing on these aspects rather than the appliance itself helps partners accept and enjoy intimacy despite an ostomy.