This topic is about the challenges of dating when you have a long-term colostomy. The person sharing their story has had a colostomy for ten years and recently faced a setback in their dating life. After months of communication with a man from Malta, she disclosed her colostomy to him. Initially, he seemed accepting, but later sent a message saying he couldn't handle it, ending their potential relationship. This was the third time she experienced such a reaction, leading her to consider focusing on friendships instead of romantic relationships. Despite this, she remains positive and wishes everyone a happy and healthy year.

Here are some pieces of advice and insights for anyone in a similar situation:

1. Remember that your ostomy does not define you. If someone cannot see beyond it, the issue is with them, not you.

2. Appreciate honesty, even if it comes sooner than expected. It saves you from investing more time and emotions into a relationship that may not work out.

3. Stay positive and open to new relationships. The right person will come along when you least expect it.

4. Keep your confidence high. Hold your head up, recognize that it is their loss, and continue enjoying life and the activities you love.

5. Use humor to lighten the situation. For example, giving your stoma a fun name can help maintain a light-hearted perspective and boost your self-confidence.