This topic is about managing an ostomy appliance to ensure comfort during intimate moments. The idea is that having an ostomy shouldn't stop anyone from enjoying a fulfilling intimate life. Here are some helpful tips and insights to make this experience more comfortable:

1. If the pouch feels intrusive, consider switching to a shorter, smaller pouch to reduce interference and improve comfort.

2. Secure the pouch in a way that keeps it out of the way:
- Sew a loop of thick elastic that can be slipped up the thigh like a suspender, and tuck the pouch end into it.
- Use "bowl covers" made from plastic or, preferably, quieter fabric. These come in various sizes, can be hidden under lingerie, and can be home-sewn or custom-made.
- Create a simple waist wrap by stitching a fabric band that encircles the waist and completely covers the appliance.

3. Use formal-wear accessories:
- A tuxedo cummerbund, also known as a cumberbund, can easily conceal a pouch. It comes in many fabrics and colors, is adjustable, and keeps the bag flat against the body. Affordable options are available online.

4. Female-specific coverings:
- "Boob-tube" style tops or wide fabric belts can hide or support the pouch.
- Decorative pouches from companies like "My Heart Ties" offer attractive designs meant to be shown off.

5. Consider colostomy irrigation for greater freedom:
- Regular irrigation might allow the use of a very small "cap" pouch, which is available from several ostomy-supply companies. Discuss with an ostomy nurse to gain confidence about diet, location, and intimacy.

6. General encouragement:
- Many people have found that these simple, inexpensive DIY or commercially available solutions can restore comfort and confidence during intimacy. They are easy to make, modify, or even patent.