This topic is about a man who has an ileostomy and is searching for a partner who values his personality and ambition over his medical condition. He feels that some women judge him because of his ostomy bag, but he maintains a positive self-image and works hard. Here are some pieces of advice and insights for anyone in a similar situation:

1. Engage in activities you love, especially volunteer work. Being in caring environments can help you meet compassionate people who are less likely to judge based on an ostomy.

2. Consider your ostomy as a "badge of survival." Being alive and functional is what truly matters, not the superficial opinions of others.

3. Embrace self-acceptance. When you are comfortable with your ostomy, it becomes easier for potential partners to feel comfortable with it too.

4. Positive dating experiences are possible. Many have found that when they are open and confident about their ostomy, dates are not bothered by it.

5. If you feel misunderstood in current relationships, consider joining online communities or support groups. These can connect you with people who share similar experiences or can empathize with your situation.

6. If professional counseling hasn't been helpful, continue to seek out supportive networks. There are many people willing to listen and understand, even if family or spouses do not.