The topic is about managing a stoma bag during intimate moments, specifically how to keep the pouch out of the way during sex. Here are some practical tips and insights shared by others who have experience with this:
1. Preparation
- Empty your pouch just before intimacy, and some people also choose to irrigate beforehand.
- Try to limit fluids, especially carbonated drinks and beer, right before sex to reduce the chance of the pouch ballooning.
- Consider switching to a smaller "mini" pouch for the occasion if that makes you more comfortable.
2. Confidence and Communication
- Most partners are understanding about the appliance, so focus on feeling confident rather than insecure.
- If your partner has questions, a simple explanation after the fact is usually sufficient; there's no need for a lengthy discussion beforehand.
3. Secure-and-Cover Options
- Use elastic abdominal or hernia wraps available at pharmacies. Some people use muscle wraps that can be cut to the desired width.
- Formalwear cummerbunds from thrift shops can neatly tuck the pouch underneath.
- Women's or unisex tube tops or bandeaus can be used; they are inexpensive and have good elasticity.
- Belly-support garments from lingerie departments can also be helpful.
- Ostomysecrets products offer options like the Classic Unisex Wrap with a built-in pocket and wide fabric bands for a "Spanx" effect.
- The Stealth Belt is highly recommended and can be worn 24/7 for sex, sports, and everyday support.
- OPTIONS Ostomy Underwear, available on Amazon and from medical suppliers, has an inner pocket to hold the pouch and comes in various styles.
- Decorative pouch covers like CSPouch Covers can add a touch of aesthetics.
- Coloplast SenSura Mio bags have a built-in Velcro tab to fold and shorten the pouch, which can also be tucked under an ostomy belt.
4. Additional Practical Tips
- Flatten or fold the pouch to prevent it from dangling; tucking it under a belt works for some.
- YouTube has resources like "Ostomy clothing guide for men" for visual demonstrations on keeping the pouch secure during sex.
- For those who irrigate, having a nearly empty bag often eliminates the need for extra support.
5. Mind-set
- The mantra "Empty it, flatten it, pretend it’s not there" can be helpful.
- Enjoy sex as a normal part of life; overcoming personal mental blocks is often the biggest challenge.
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