This topic is about overcoming the stigma and emotional challenges that can come with having an ostomy. The person who started the discussion shared their journey of dealing with anxiety and shame after getting a colostomy seven years ago. They were worried about people finding out, potential leaks, and accidents while sleeping, which made them feel less than whole. However, by engaging with others on a forum, they began to see things differently. They realized that, compared to other possibilities, having an ostomy is something they can manage, and life can still be fulfilling. By accepting the situation as it is, they were able to move forward, putting the ostomy in the "back seat" of their life.

Here are some helpful insights and advice shared in the discussion:

1. Engaging with a supportive community can be incredibly therapeutic. Sharing your experiences and listening to others can help reduce feelings of isolation and make living with a stoma feel more normal.

2. Keeping things in perspective is important. Many people face challenges that are more limiting than an ostomy. Reminding yourself of this can help quiet any self-stigma you might feel.

3. Adopting a mindset of acceptance, like saying "It is what it is," can help you adjust emotionally more quickly. Focus on living your life rather than on the appliance.

4. Learning and practicing colostomy irrigation can provide a strong sense of freedom and control over your situation.

5. Staying positive and offering support to others can reinforce your own acceptance and resilience.