This topic is about coming to terms with having an ostomy, dealing with body image issues, managing leaks, and believing in your own lovability. The originator shares her journey of feeling unattractive after her ostomy surgery and how she stopped dating, thinking no one would accept her with "the bag." However, she recently started a relationship with someone who has been very accepting and supportive, even during embarrassing moments like public leaks. She is looking for advice on how to handle these challenges.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. Handling leaks in intimate or public moments:
- Treat leaks as minor inconveniences rather than reflections of your worth. A supportive partner will understand and help you through these moments if you stay calm and composed.

2. Overcoming negative body-image and accepting a changed body:
- Focus on your personality, values, and the qualities that make you unique. Long-term relationships are built on these deeper connections rather than physical perfection.
- Remind yourself that true beauty is about your actions and character. Create a list of personal goals, like being present, honest, and empowering, to reinforce your self-worth beyond physical changes.

3. Trusting a partner’s assurance of your beauty and desirability:
- Remember that a caring partner sees your beauty in your eyes and appreciates both your inner and outer qualities. Their reassurance can help, but it's also important to work on your self-image.

4. Dating and meeting partners:
- Don't lose hope; there are supportive people out there who will accept you as you are.
- Consider dating fellow ostomates or using specialized dating sections and forums. While mainstream dating sites might feel discouraging, persistence can lead to finding someone special.