This topic is about exploring BDSM and fetish activities while having a stoma. The originator and his wife are interested in the BDSM scene and are seeking advice from others who have experience in this area, particularly those who also have a stoma. They want to ensure that their stoma is not involved in the activities and are looking for general advice and shared experiences.

Here are some helpful insights and advice shared by others:

1. Keep the stoma off-limits. It's important to treat the stoma like any other part of the body that requires respect and should not be touched during activities.

2. Practice strict safety.
- Use a safe word and clearly negotiate limits before engaging in any activities.
- Remember that fantasies can quickly become reality, so it's crucial to adhere to general BDSM safety principles like "safe, sane, consensual" or "risk-aware consensual kink."

3. Monitor the scope and intensity of activities.
- Be aware that BDSM can become addictive, leading to increasingly intense activities.
- Stay mindful of this and seek help, such as from Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), if it starts to feel compulsive or harmful.

4. Enjoy without self-limiting.
- Many encourage pursuing the BDSM scene without letting an ostomy define or restrict personal sexuality.
- Embrace the idea of "never let a stoma limit yourself" and "you do you, boo."

5. Consider gear options.
- Some suggest using supportive or covering garments, like the Stealth Belt ostomy support belt, to aid comfort and discretion during scenes.

These insights aim to help those with a stoma navigate the BDSM scene safely and enjoyably.