Sorry but it didn't work out

geoff, kick some rear man, I am so proud of you and my belief in Romance holds true.  Tine will find someone as I believe she is ready at this time in her life, thank you for your kindness in sharing.  geoff I am so glad you found someone and someoe found you as you really deserved to be happy and not alone, just remember never stop working at the one you fell in love with and visa versa.  I read on my email just a bit ago you had said something on dating and to my not so shocked brain, cause I was tipped off by a lovely person, I still had to see what you had to say.  You sound happy and you stay that way as we make our own Choices in Life and she sounds like a keeper.  God Bless You Geoff and yea keep in touch, you did make friends who care, Love Jenny
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Your coping really well after everything you have been through. After you get sorted out nothing will hold you back. I have had my ostomy for so long I can tell very quickly how a new ostomist will cope. You score  10/10. You have done the hard part now it gets easier. The difference between love and lust. If they love you they won't care about the bag, just happy your well.  Lust, your too good for them with or without a bag. x x x

thankyou so much stu....i guess i am getting there...been abit of emotional rollercoaster but  it makes us stronger in the long run. i know im not ready ready to offer anybody 100% of me and when i do it is going to be one special person....thanks stu for your continued support ....xx

Hi mate, good to read that you have found a relationship. Really pleased for you; it gives others hope that not everyone is judgmental and that there are people out there who can see beyond the stoma and see everything else that you have to offer. Good luck to both of you for the future.

Anthony

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I've said it before and I'll probably say it at least a million more times;

I don't get it.

I will never understand why dating or having sex with someone who happens to have a bag is such a deal breaker for so many people. I hate hearing about it; it makes me angry and sad and just really scared for the human race, quite honestly. I've heard it said before that if my husband had his ileostomy before we met, then I would be singing a different tune, but I say bollocks. My husband is a sexy beast, and I firmly believe I would think so whether or not he had his operation before we met.

Everyone has baggage! But some of my husband's just happens to be visible. Seriously, it's just NOT a big deal at all. My husband has an ileostomy, I have stretch marks; no one is perfect.

I really hope that everyone in the community who is trying to find their soul mate is successful in this endeavor. I'm sorry the world can feel like such a lonely and shallow place for you at times.
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Congrats, Geoff!

And you mentioned the key; you found someone with whom you really clicked. And those relationships are there for those who will look, be honest, and real.

I've dated those with ostomies and those without. And I haven't had any issues with intimacy with ladies knowing I had an ostomy once we clicked in so many other areas of life.

Life is to be cherished, and I'm going to enjoy all of it I can, with someone with similar interests.
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Loren

Hi Geoff, that was brave of you to put yourself out there like that. I'm sorry you've had no replies, but I really agree that people use this more for info and support as opposed to dating. On the other hand, there is a dating site called Plenty of Fish.com that is free, where I'm sure you will receive plenty of messages and also give you the confidence to send messages without feeling like a twat (your words, not mine lol). A bit of advice: correspond with people for a bit, let them get to know your personality, then if you feel you need to tell them about your bag, do so. But don't be disappointed if they don't reply; there are plenty of fish in that sea lol. I've met someone on that site, and we've been together 3 months, and he says the bag does not bother him, but I think that's because I don't really bring the subject up much and just pretty much get on with life. Best of luck to you, Sadie xxx

Geoff,
When reading your post, I had to close my eyes for a minute and take a second look to be sure what I was reading was not a figment of my imagination. The thought of a prince charming out there searching for someone to love, it's so romantic, comforting, and warm. I think we all search for that "Knight in shining armor," the perfect love, and that romantic connection. I also search for my "Romeo" and pray every day that he will ride by on that white horse and scoop me up to live forever in that fantasy world of love. I realize the need for affection and that comforting touch each and every day. As I am out in public, I notice the elderly people walking and sitting together, holding hands, laughing, and having conversations with one another. I have to admit that I am envious and want what they have also. Life is short, and we need to have that special someone to share it with. Geoff, you are beautiful inside and out; someone would be so blessed to have you. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Karen

Hey Tall Geoff....damn shame you're not closer...I'd love to meet an honest, open guy. I have given up..Broken hearts are a dime a dozen these days..Respect and understanding are a myth. I believe in TRUE LOVE....Just not for me...Good luck with your search...and as a few said..Have patience..All good things come to those who wait. Or so they say. I'm thinking of doing what a lot of men do...Booty calls only......If only I could be bothered looking..lol...Hope you find what you're looking for..
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My advice is to stop going on about 'giving love' and start telling these women about you! What makes you laugh? What are your life experiences? Hobbies? Places you love? World views? How do you spend your days? We all like someone with a positive outlook on life, but if you sound like a whinger, nobody will be interested. Start looking outward instead of inward. You've done the brave thing - now follow it up with more info about how you live your life. Best of luck!

Congrats on finding someone special, Geoff!! That is wonderful news!!
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I don't have a problem getting laid; now finding a relationship, that's a problem. But I don't think it has anything to do with my colostomy; it's just a sign of the times ...D

What do you mean by 'just a sign of the times'?

Women are picky; a guy with a stoma, a guy w/o, hmmm, we got voted out. Unless you were in a relationship for a lot of years, we ostamates will be voted off the island when it comes to a relationship over a year. The funny thing that's happened to me is when ostamates are on this site telling they want to meet and talk or have dinner or pursue a sexual time and would pay to meet up with you, and when I get to their town or in their area, they clam up and don't answer email. What is up with that? They want to be intimate but only on the site, not in person. I drive a thousand miles to work and ride my Harley and invite ostamates out and have been turned down every time. Guess I'll have to try the UK.

Don't know... not sure what the divorce rate in the UK is, but here it's an industry, lol. Never been to England, never had a reason
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As for me, I've only been in a few relationships in my life, and each time I got burned, deeply hurt to the core of my soul, so I don't go that path anymore; I give up. Now I just spend my time with friends when possible, and we all help each other out best we can, but I step on the idea of romance like a bug these days, lol. My heart cannot endure that anymore; I have no more trust left in me for that road. When I'm not working, I just want to relax, go fishing, hang out sometimes to share some laughs, or sit in silence among friends and just float down the river in kayaks, stargaze, or hit the beach to wiggle my toes in the sand.

I don't know how things are where y'all live, but here in Wisconsin, things are getting tougher to survive if you're ill or weighed down with medical problems. Many of us are sharing apartments or homes together to help each other get by and assist each other best we can. It definitely helps, for without doing so, we would no longer be able to survive. I am no longer able to do as much as I used to, but I still do what I can, and when I'm not working, I like to sit with a bowl of buttered popcorn or a pile of knitting in my lap and rock by the flickering glow of the late-night television. THAT is my new romance, lol, just finding peace where I can. I've grown tired. Very tired.

Cheers and good luck, everyone; this little doe loves each of you
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xoxo

Hi all

Well, it's been over a year and a half now since I put myself out there. It didn't work that time, and so I find myself now confident enough to put my dating skills to the test once again. (I hope)
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So I'm back looking for that perfect someone. I see there's been lots to talk about.
Feel free to get in touch if you're also looking for that special someone too.

Hi Geoff!

Have faith. I bet the perfect girl for you is out there somewhere =)
and she will find you! Happy Easter.

Take care,
J.J.

Hi Geoff,

I'm not a full member yet, so I can't initiate chats. Could you send me a message?

L

Dear anwylyd-un,

If I could private message you, I would have, but I am wondering if you realize the last time Geoff responded to this post was in March of 2013? You could try winking at him and see if he responds. We can "wink" even if we aren't paying members. I only replied because I did not know if you noticed and did not want you to get upset or hurt if he did not respond.

There's a lot of great people on this site, but they don't always come online frequently. I hope you find who you are looking for.

Thanks, Zywie. I figure he'll get a notification that there's been activity on this thread. I appreciate your concern.

L

Ah, forgot about notifications.... "face palm." Hugs

anwylyd_un Like you, I am not a fully paid-up member, so I cannot send you an email or anything,
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Be lucky, shiny happy people!

Well, hello there. Yes, I'm reading this.

My membership has run out.

I'll try to get in touch, okay anwylyd-un.

Hi, I am here.

anwylyd_un

Take a look at my profile, okay? ;-)

Hi Geoff,

Thanks for the prompt; I have sent a message.

L

Message bounced back; can you check the destination spelling?

Didn't get it lol take a look at the profile again did you co uk it?

Sure did, boomeranged right on back to me, though. Gotta love technology, eh?

L