I have had my stoma for 8 years. I also have an ileal conduit, so I have 2 bags. I had a major compression in my spine that damaged all my nerves.
I have had 3 refashioned stomas. I had the first one where I was opened up in the middle, a big operation. The next 2 were where they pulled fresh bowel through. I had these extra operations because I get granulomas, little white warts that bleed so much I am anemic. That's why they redid the stoma. I had the last operation in January.
They are coming back again. I saw the consultant last week. The next operation would be to cut up the middle again and make a new site. It would be under where my stoma is now. But I, like the consultant, want to wait.
I went to see the stoma nurses. They told me what type of new bag I would need and gave me a nice clean up. They said I keep my stoma so clean.
I am lucky that the company I use to get all my supplies has their own stoma nurses, so I get a home visit every week if I want. The nurses at the hospital know my stoma nurses, so I am very lucky. The hospital stoma nurses never discharge, unlike most hospitals that don't see you once you finish with your consultant.
I am 62. I have had 12 operations since 2008, all major operations, all due to this first compression. 2 of the operations have been on the top part of my back, the others in the same lower back. That was the worst pain ever, worse than my bladder removal.
The point is, I carry on with my life. I am disabled now, all because the first compression was left for 6 days. I sued and they settled out of court. I would give it all back if I had my health back. I lost 12 years.
I have made the most of it. I have mishaps with the bags leaking. I have 2 stomas to look after. I change my whole lot every 2 days. I use a lot of bags.
I use a 2-piece bag and base plate. All I do is unclip my old bag, clean, then clip the new bag on. I have used so many types of bags and base units.
My life has changed so much. I won't say having a stoma or stomas has not made any difference, because it has.
I have had 2 major operations due to hernias, so I have mesh. The others were incisional hernias.
As my belly has swollen and I have put on weight, I wear loose tops. If the tops are tight, you do notice the bag. I got used to the bags. With the wee stoma, I put a night bag on and I never wake up as my wee goes into the bag.
So, there are pluses and minuses. The point is, I have told you all this because I have seen so much pain and suffering and have watched and talked to people who are suffering mentally.
I have seen that there is always someone worse than you. So just live your life to the full. As you get older, you just get so used to doing your bags, it gets easier.