So, ugh, I was married when I was 17 (36 years), got the ileostomy, and was single after 3 years! WTF!?
tmn68
Sep 15, 2022 9:52 pm
Little Stinker
Sep 15, 2022 10:42 pm
Oh, I'm so sorry! How sad to be getting divorced after all that time. My ex left me after 10 years, and I thought I'd never recover, but I did, and my now husband of 39 years has been there for me every step of the way. You will get through it. And there are a lot of guys out there who will be perfect for you if you want to go that route again. Many blessings!
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Hi Deb,
As you can see, the outpouring of love and support from this website will help you to find the strength to lift yourself up and out of your current emotional situation. I am lucky to have my husband by my side through all of this, so I will not even pretend to know how you feel and what you're going through alone. I do know that I have great friends on this site and in my life that have been by my side, and hopefully you have many by your side as well. You do have a lot of new friends here. Please feel free to talk through anything that is on your mind. We all go through a confidence deficit when we go through an ostomy surgery. Our body has been marred and your mind feels that way sometimes too. It is tough to move on, but you will. You will be stronger once you realize that you are still the beautiful woman you were prior to your surgery. Hopefully, you can reach out to a local support group and find some additional friends in your same situation. It always helps to have a sounding board wherever you find it!
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tmn68
Sep 16, 2022 12:21 am
I'm still really shocked! It's only been 6 months.
I know you're right; I will get through this. I have a large family, and they're very supportive.
Thank you so much for the inspirational words.
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tmn68
Sep 16, 2022 1:10 am
I'm still really shocked! It's only been 6 months.
I know you're right; I will get through this. I have a large family, and they're very supportive.
Thank you so much for the inspirational words.
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bowsprit
Sep 16, 2022 8:51 am
Some of the girls betrayed by those deserters can dismiss them in French: "L'ancien gars? Je l'emmerde" ("The former guy? I don't give a shit about him").
Rene
Sep 22, 2022 10:56 pm
So sorry to hear about that. His loss, as you look like a very strong woman who will get through this in time and will emerge stronger. There are plenty of blokes out there who would be proud to spend time with you. My husband has provided unconditional support for me since my ileostomy nearly a year ago, and I hope that support continues.
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tmn68
Sep 23, 2022 12:12 am
Thank you so much, you are very nice to say those things, and you're right, I will get through this like all my other hardships - 💪🏼