Unless you're a wild man, it isn't coming off. Go enjoy.
mrkuttr53
Mar 20, 2025 3:32 pm
No, I'm not a wild man, but my wife is really not enjoying it. Moving around, slapping her belly or anything, if you know what I mean. I'm just wondering how to kind of disguise it or secure it better.
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I want to thank everyone for their suggestions, messages, and tips! So many have helped! We are learning as we go, learning the ins and outs of this bag. I have ordered special tape that does not irritate my skin and am now using Domeboro powder before putting on a new bag. My boyfriend says that my skin is so much less red!
Saw an ostomy nurse today; she said my boyfriend is doing everything right. One of my issues is that I am really thin, and my skin is really crinkly due to the surgery. We shall see how this bag goes.
This site is a real blessing. Everyone here is so awesome!
Kim
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SusanT
Mar 20, 2025 5:29 pm
Wraps as already suggested. But perhaps cut down on your water intake for an hour or two beforehand. The ileostomates here will probably react in horror, but I know how quickly that bag fills and how heavy it gets. With a urostomy, you can probably tolerate mild dehydration for short periods.
IGGIE
Mar 21, 2025 12:30 am
G-Day Mark,
The lady has a thing called a boob tub, and it holds everything together. If you're a big guy, buy two of them and sew them together.
Regards, IGGIE.
Gemini16
Mar 23, 2025 2:03 am
I say don't concentrate on the mishaps of the bag/pouch. Things happen, can't even say sometimes! Rarely! If you're more in the moment and just let loose, not give two cares. It's about the connection with that special person. Just do it!
eefyjig
Mar 23, 2025 2:29 am
Hi Mark, I think the main thing is for you to feel that your bag is held securely enough against your body. If you feel confident with that, you can experience intimacy more easily. I have an ileostomy, so I don't know if urostomies are different, but if possible, empty your bag and fold it in half (or not), then use a wrap like others suggested. Underwear with strategic cutouts does the trick, too.
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NancyAnn
Aug 08, 2025 4:10 am
Hi, they have a place called Stealth Belt. They are for support and discretion. Check out their website.
Past Member
Sep 15, 2025 8:01 am
If your wife has a problem with your bag getting involved in the action, maybe she could look at some of the ostomy specialist underwear sites because she'll have a good idea of what would solve the problem for her. Probably better is for the two of you to browse and discuss to get something that works for both of you. Women can get crotchless knickers - I don't know what the equivalent is for men. And, as has been mentioned, there's a sort of band that looks like an old-fashioned girdle.
Also, search online for ‘sex positions for urostomy' as well as thinking about changes you could make to solve the specific problem that suit the two of you.