Just to say hello and maybe become friends

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cttrip07
Jul 13, 2025 11:28 am

Hello,

Many greetings from me. My name is Ciska and I am 58 years old. In March 2011, it was known that I had colon cancer. In April 2011, I received a colostomy. And several operations, chemo treatments, and radiation later, it is now 2025!!! I am aware that all my so-called "friends" have vanished. And that hurts. A LOT.... Sometimes you want to just say hello or have a nice phone call. Or just to know that someone is there for you. I am married and we have two Chihuahuas and two cats. But sometimes you want to say something that your husband doesn't know. No serious things, but as a woman, you have to cope with some things that your husband perhaps does not understand.

Have a nice Sunday everyone ❤️

xnine
Jul 13, 2025 12:28 pm

Hello from Canada. I had a brief stay in Amsterdam when I was on a student exchange many years ago.

IGGIE
Jul 13, 2025 12:31 pm

Welcome aboard. I hope we can be of help.

Regards, IGGIE

Caz67

Well it's just coming upto a year since I had my emergency stoma. Since joining MAOM I have learnt all different kinds of ideas to help with the stoma. Not only that I have made a lot of good friends who I can talk to. The beauty of this site is it's not just giving tips and ideas we talk about anything and everything. So thank you for giving us a great site. XX

Pesty
Jul 13, 2025 12:38 pm

Hello from England.

ron in mich
Jul 13, 2025 12:46 pm

Hello Ciska, welcome to the site. Long time ilieostomate here. Feel free to ask any questions you might have or offer an observation on a topic. The more we share, the better for the group.

 

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Jimky 1
Jul 13, 2025 1:39 pm

Hi from Scotland.

Riva
Jul 13, 2025 1:39 pm

Hello. You're never alone on this site. Welcome to the community.

Morning glory
Jul 13, 2025 1:48 pm

Hello and welcome to the site. So many nice people here to make friends here.

SusanT
Jul 13, 2025 4:29 pm

Welcome! It is painful when those you thought were friends abandon you in your time of need.

Here you will find loving, supportive people who know what you are going through.

TerryLT
Jul 13, 2025 8:03 pm

Hi Ciska, Welcome to the site. You will find lots of people here who understand what it is you are going through. Even with a supportive partner, as you say, they just don't and can't really understand what it's like to be an ostomate. We do, so feel free to ask anything or just express your frustrations too. It's sad that you have lost friends, but I think any friend who would abandon you simply because of your health issues is a friend you really don't need. I'm glad you found us.

Terry

deehopson74
Jul 13, 2025 9:55 pm

Hello from California 👋🏽.

corlsharonl49
Jul 13, 2025 10:20 pm

Hi from Pennsylvania! Yep, you definitely need better friends. Life is too short to waste on people who aren't truly going to support you, especially when you're dealing with physical and mental struggles. This site will help.

Axl
Jul 14, 2025 10:21 am

Welcome from Oz 🇦🇺

Jayne
Jul 14, 2025 12:02 pm

Welcome Ciska

You have come to a good place.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ Waves from the Green Hills of Wales ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

BW

Jayne

Nightrose
Jul 14, 2025 10:01 pm

Hello Ciska 👋

I found out who my friends were when I got cancer too; yes, it does hurt. I think that they are scared and don't know how to talk to us.

This is a good place to be, though; lots of lovely folk x