One question I'm wrestling with is the future placement of the stoma on my abdomen for my urostomy. My surgery is scheduled for Aug 19th. When we met with the surgeon before I had decided to do the surgery, he pointed to a spot that was 3 inches higher than my belly button and to the side. Is that normal? From what I've seen online, most showed the stoma equal to or lower than the belly button. That seems more discreet. And it seems like wearing a wrap or band to stabilize the bag would be more comfortable in my high waist area than around my back. But...I don't know...is there a reason medically it needs to be higher? Is it more functional higher so the bag is not folded when I sit or bend over? I plan to reach out to my surgeon tomorrow but wanted feedback from others who have lived with a bag.
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