I have commented to others here how being impotent has only changed how things are done and other than that it is not all that important. I also stated that my bag had not affected our relationship, that my wife was fine with it all.
Without going into details, my [not our] last night bedroom activities were about as satisfying as if she was not there with me. Nothing I tried was what she wanted and in the end, she just rolled over, ignored me, and went to sleep. This is not a one-off, as it has been getting "difficult" on earlier occasions but last night was a complete nothing.
I spoke to her about it this morning and it seems that she no longer wants to engage in bedroom activities again with me. I don't know if she wants or has another (she denied she did), but either way, not with me.
She changed my flange today as she normally does for me, but it was just as if she had to do it and not because she wanted to do it. I had never asked her to do more than assist me on a couple of occasions, and she just took over doing it all. But after today's effort, I feel that I will be doing it myself again soon.
At this time, there is no mention of any other action, like running, but I truly believe the first stage of departure has arrived and it will only be a matter of time before the next stage is reached.
We are into my seventh month of the bag; could this be the seven-month itch?
I will not be looking for another if she does go or wants me to go. 63 is too old to start again, especially with a two-and-a-half-year-old son. I am just assuming that it is the bag. If not, I would need to blame myself, but I have no idea what I could have done to cause this change.
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