This topic is about finding emotional balance while living with an ostomy and other health challenges, especially during the holiday season. The person sharing their experience talks about the ups and downs of having an ostomy, which they affectionately call "Stella." Some days it feels like a natural part of them, while other days it feels unpleasant. They also deal with the frustration of being connected to a long oxygen tube that often gets caught on things. The holidays, usually a time of joy, bring mixed emotions—gratitude from holiday music but also sadness over the changes in their life after a sudden illness. They express a desire to connect with others who understand what it's like to have an ostomy and share their appreciation for the supportive community.

Here are some pieces of advice and insights shared:

1. You’re not alone: Every person with an ostomy has tough days. The forum is a safe space to share your feelings and find understanding.

2. Embrace the hope and joy of the season. Music, festive activities, and spiritual reflection can help balance out sad memories.

3. Remember what or who is "in control," whether it's your faith or personal beliefs, to regain perspective when feeling hopeless.

4. Focus on what you can still do, even if it's at a slower pace or with limitations. Observing others who face greater challenges can help foster a sense of gratitude.