This topic is about the challenges of dating with an ostomy and a particular experience where someone tried to hide their ostomy pouch on a first date. The person thought it would be easier for their date to accept them if they got to know each other first before revealing the pouch. Unfortunately, the attempt to conceal it led to an uncomfortable situation. Here are some helpful pieces of advice and insights for anyone in a similar situation:

1. Consider using an ostomy support belt. These belts can help keep the pouch secure and discreet, preventing it from tugging even when it fills up. This can be especially useful in work or social settings.

2. Think about when to disclose your ostomy. Many people feel it's okay not to mention it right away. It's often best to share this information once you've developed trust and friendship with someone.

3. Self-confidence is important. Keep a positive attitude and believe in your own worth. The right partner will appreciate who you are beyond any physical details.

4. If you need to leave suddenly due to a pouch issue, try to explain briefly. This can prevent misunderstandings and reassure your date that they haven't done anything wrong.