This topic is about someone who had emergency stoma surgery in 2011 after being diagnosed with diverticular disease. Initially, they had bowel surgery without a stoma, but complications led to a second surgery where a temporary stoma was created. They are now dealing with a small hernia and are feeling anxious about returning to work, socializing, and dating. They are reaching out for support and practical advice.

Here are some helpful insights and advice:

1. You are in the right place for support. Feel free to ask questions and use the chat room. Activity may vary, so be patient and consider exchanging emails for more consistent contact.

2. Feeling nervous is completely normal. Many people have been in your shoes and later realized they worried more than necessary.

3. Work:
- Many have successfully returned to customer-facing jobs a few months after surgery, and often, no one noticed the stoma appliance.
- Consider a phased or reduced-hours return to work. This can help you adjust while learning how to manage your stoma output during work hours.
- Informing a trusted manager can provide you with the flexibility and support needed for breaks or unexpected situations.

4. Body image and dating:
- Most partners are accepting, and being comfortable with your own body can help them feel comfortable too.
- One person started a new relationship shortly before surgery and found that intimacy was unaffected, often approached with humor.
- Others who haven't dated yet are encouraged to be open to future relationships.

5. Emotional health: Getting back into everyday routines, like work, can boost your psychological well-being and help prevent feelings of isolation.