This topic is about a 32-year-old named Marc who is navigating life with a permanent stoma due to Crohn’s disease. After several surgeries, including a proctocolectomy, Marc's long-term relationship ended, and he is now facing challenges in dating and maintaining self-esteem. Despite ongoing health issues and being unable to work, Marc is in therapy and attending a self-esteem course to rebuild his confidence. Here are some pieces of advice and insights shared by others in similar situations:

1. Explore ostomy forums and dating sites. Many have found partners through these platforms, and there are plenty of profiles to explore.

2. Focus on self-acceptance. See your ostomy as a "badge of survival." When you appreciate yourself, others will too.

3. Highlight your personality first. Introduce yourself as the "fun, witty guy," and let the stoma be a minor detail.

4. Choose the right time to discuss your stoma. Most suggest bringing it up between early dating and before becoming physically intimate.

5. Be prepared for different reactions. Some dates might not be interested, while others won't mind. Rejections happen in all dating scenarios, not just because of a stoma.

6. Consider dating someone who understands. People with their own ostomies or digestive diseases might relate more easily.

7. Confidence is attractive. Acting confident and sexy can make you appear that way to others.

8. Prioritize your health and mindset. Focus on stabilizing your health and regaining energy before putting pressure on yourself to date.

9. Check out books and resources. "It’s in the Bag and Under the Covers" by Brenda Elsagher is recommended for stories on relationships and ostomies.

10. Join support groups. Local ostomy meetings can help you meet understanding friends or potential partners.

11. Maintain a positive outlook. Many long-term ostomates have shared success stories of marriages, children, and long-lasting relationships, proving that a stoma does not prevent finding love.