This topic is about a married man in his mid-30s who, after recovering from ostomy surgery, is exploring a more adventurous sex life with his wife. Having faced a life-threatening situation during surgery, he is now eager to fulfill some long-held fantasies, including trying out the swinger lifestyle and exploring his bi-curiosity. However, he is concerned about potential partners' reactions to his ostomy pouch. He wonders if others with an ostomy share his concerns.

Here are some insights and advice from others who have been in similar situations:

1. Timing of disclosure is important. Many people have found that mentioning the ostomy early in email or text conversations can lead to a higher chance of rejection. However, discussing it face-to-face after building some rapport tends to result in better acceptance.

2. Meeting potential swinging partners in person can naturally lead to a conversation about the pouch once there is a clear mutual interest.

3. Personal experiences shared by others suggest that once they reach the point of an in-person encounter, no partner has rejected them because of the ostomy. This indicates that the initial fear of rejection might be greater than the actual risk.